Is there a Lunatic inside your Head?

This is a post I wrote near on 2 years agoI believe that it is still relevant today.

“I’ve gone a little crazy for this post. It”s a somewhat different take on things, a different angle or perspective if you like……..

#What’s that you say?…..I thought I heard a voice. # Nah, can’t be?

You know, that nagging “voice” which is trying to interrupt your concentration. You are  focussing but there is something else lurking in your subconscious, trying to get to the surface………it appears some lunatic is attempting to sabotage your thoughts OR is that same “lunatic” just trying to get your attention?

Which “lunatic” is it…..Good Lunatic or Bad Lunatic?

The Good Lunatic may at first seem a little crazy, a little different, make a lot of noise but hey, isn’t that the world that we live in? full of noise, distraction. Maybe that’s why he/she is making so much noise……to get your attention in the first instance.

Unnecessary distraction & noise take us away from our Main Game. There are (numerous) times when I have  needed a “good lunatic” to get me back on track. A Voice prepared to give me a good “kicking” when required. A Voice to rise above the noise of everyday Life and at the same time, respect my need for quietness when the time to pause for some deep thought & introspection is required

However, there is also the “bad lunatic” voice, which can be much more subtle(at first). Quietly whispering in your ear. The soothing sounds of self destruction. He/she sneeks up on you, becomes your “friend”, gently offering support & encouragement……..only to eventually get you derailed!

Then the  “bad” becomes “real bad”. He/she ups the volume. The gentle soothing whispers become noisier, more persistent. You have difficulty hearing anything else, this “lunatic” is gaining control & is blocking out the voice of reason, commonsense, practicality and the quiet of deep personal thought.

Which “lunatic” do you want or have inside your head?

Sadly, many are unaware of the voice within the inner guiding light, intuition, cosmic power source, universal thought line or whatever tag you would like to apply. So for many, there is a lunatic running loose in the asylum. A distracting noise aimed at your self destruction.

The Key, I believe is knowing your inner voice, it’s vulnerabilities and it’s power (when it’s good & when it’s bad). Knowing your inner voice & it’s behaviour, will give you more self control and the ability to be your true self, rather than have a “lunatic” in charge of your life.”

I’d love to hear your thoughts …..

Be good to yourselves

David

Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.

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Living Life Today – Getting through the ‘dark’ days

The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow”….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.

Sorry about the sombreness of today’s post however some days are just tough. Getting through them can be gut wrenching, confusing…..and no fun at all……and I love Fun!

But Today is one of “those” days. I have some important decisions to make, I have to do what I have to do regardless of how I feel about these situations.

When you get down on yourself and you do, you need to pick yourself up. So I thought I would share this if/when others have similar ‘tough’ days.

So, how does one prepare for battle?

Regardless of what is going on, you have the ability to fight. You may have to dig deep, however inside of you is the resilience to see through this & look forward to another day. I believe that you must have a deep self belief that you are making the correct decisions and faith that brighter days are ahead…..and you do have a powerful ally, the power of Choice.

I choose to have brighter days ahead….. I can feel it already!

Be good to yourselves

David

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When I close my eyes…….

Now for something a little different.

This is a “live” blog post, or nearly(I couldn’t type with my eyes closed). I am recording what I saw & heard, entirely unedited.

The story unfolded this morning…..

Sometimes when I close my eyes I just see a mish mash of images, voices and thoughts…….a random collection it seems.

However there are other times, like today when I set myself up for a positive visual tour of my mind. This was my experience this morning when I closed my eyes for two minutes…….

I saw and heard:

  • Waves crashing on the shore,
  • a shaft of sunsine glimmering on the ocean
  • a train arriving at the platform…..(what the?)
  • a crisp golf shot landing on the green at my local course followed by a shout from one of my playing partners…”you lucky bugger”
  • Children with their parents dancing in the park,
  • Friends shaking me by the hand, patting me on the back and saying “well done, I new you could do it”
  • Three elderly ladies chatting & laughing at the local shopping mall
  • Walking and talking with my wife and (younger) daughters on a walking trail in the Gold Coast Hinterland @ Springbrook
  • the riverfront and tree lined street @ Noosaville, Sunshine Coast
  • I was walking betwen tables and speaking to (my clients) in a group session on a large timber deck in the sunshine by a river
  • I am by the beach talking with four others about my 58th* birthday, the faces are not familiar

This “exercise” is not directly related to any specfic visualisation technique where one may attempt to visualise ‘things’ that they want or want to happen, which is powerful in it’s own right.

I wanted this exercise  to be an ‘open book’ examination of (positive) images & thoughts that have happened to me/will happen? and see how this would play out.

It is letting the mind meander with direction, in this case positive, picking up the vibe (of positive enjoyment)and creating a mental picture/video of the result…….maybe it’s unique to me?…..No, I think we can all do it.

Normally, I will close my eyes for a couple of minutes, 1-2 times per day which helps shut out any existing distractions around me. I will give thanks for the many positives in my Life and thanks in advance for the things that I want to happen. This commences my visualisation intent.

However, today I thought I would again experiment as I’ve outlined above. No particular focus other than on positive thoughts. My mind then played out a “movie” of particular positive/happy incidents that have occured(I’m sure) and others that I am guessing will be part of my future…..interesting. Can I predict my future? Am I seeing beyond the veil?…..I don’t know for sure……* I am still 56

However I do know that the mind is a powerful beast and there’s much about it that I still have to learn. I am now more of the belief  that I can train my mind to focus on the positive and remove the negative “at my command”…..and predict or project poitive images of my future?…..this is indeed good.

How about you?

Do you want more control over the selection of your thoughts? OR am I talking gibberish here?

be good to yourselves

David

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Do Goals scare you?

A recent post by Jonathan Wells really got me thinking…..Hard

I’m a Life Coach yet there ARE times when I have some difficulty getting clear on the process surrounding a particular Goal.

I’ve found that “lack of clarity” is usually the main culprit. 99% of the time, I can amend this when I review the ‘dose of meaning’ that I have attached to my Goal. If the meaning is not strong enough then I need to adjust the goal (or even discard)

There are others who often play a support role in scaring the hell out of me. They are the real ‘bogies’.

* Lack of Focus

# Lack of effective Time Management

* Too many distractions(often subtle)

When I use the term “scared”, I am not implying that I go to water, have a breakdown or anything similar. I am saying that I need to be on my best guard to ensure these ‘bogies” don’t creep in and spoil my game plan.

After all I do follow the Five Effective Steps to Achieving Meaningful Goals which is a blueprint for successful Goal achievement. Suffice to say “stuff” can still happen…..

The two marked * I find, go hand in hand. Subtle distractions sneek up on us. They are often simple things that go a long way into eroding all the good work that we have set up. e.g, ‘phone calls, incoming emails, noise, people

A lot of these are well meaning, well intentioned HOWEVER they interrupt your Focus.

FOCUS or the lack thereof is the dealbreaker. To achieve anything worthwhile one needs to be focussed and have no distractions.

In another of Jonathan’s fine posts, using applied focus in 45 minute bursts will get you on the way to achievement. I believe this to be a very good timeframe to aim at. I’ve used it and it works. It is amazing when you focus without distraction for 45 minutes (or as close as you can, I started @ 30 mins), how much you can achieve.

I am using the same philosophy with two of my current Coaching clients.

# Time Management includes scheduling your ‘focus sessions’. It’s fine to zone in on being focussed however if you don’t schedule then nothing happens.

Time Mangement also includes scheduling your priorities…..the important priorities not just the ‘urgent ones’…..often these urgencies are the ‘subtle distractions’

You see, there is nothing to be scared about.  When you get your priorities right surrounding your Goals…….

* Sufficient Meaning, Focus, Time Management, Avoiding distractions

then you are on your way.

Be good to yourselves

David

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Is there a Lunatic inside your Head?

I’ve gone a little crazy for this post. It”s a somewhat different take on things, a different angle or perspective if you like……..

#What’s that you say?…..I thought I heard a voice. # Nah, can’t be?

You know, that nagging “voice” which is trying to interrupt your concentration. You are  focussing but there is something else lurking in your subconscious, trying to get to the surface………it appears some lunatic is attempting to sabotage your thoughts OR is that same “lunatic” just trying to get your attention?

Which “lunatic” is it…..Good Lunatic or Bad Lunatic?

The Good Lunatic may at first seem a little crazy, a little different, make a lot of noise but hey, isn’t that the world that we live in? full of noise, distraction. Maybe that’s why he/she is making so much noise……to get your attention in the first instance.

Unnecessary distraction & noise take us away from our Main Game. There are (numerous) times when I have  needed a “good lunatic” to get me back on track. A Voice prepared to give me a good “kicking” when required. A Voice to rise above the noise of everyday Life and at the same time, respect my need for quietness when the time to pause for some deep thought & introspection is required

However, there is also the “bad lunatic” voice, which can be much more subtle(at first). Quietly whispering in your ear. The soothing sounds of self destruction. He/she sneeks up on you, becomes your “friend”, gently offering support & encouragement……..only to eventually get you derailed!

Then the  “bad” becomes “real bad”. He/she ups the volume. The gentle soothing whispers become noisier, more persistent. You have difficulty hearing anything else, this “lunatic” is gaining control & is blocking out the voice of reason, commonsense, practicality and the quiet of deep personal thought.

# Which “lunatic” do you want or have inside your head?

(How do you choose, how do you know which “voice” is the one for you.)

Sadly, many are unaware of the voice within the inner guiding light, intuition, cosmic power source, universal thought line or whatever tag you would like to apply. So for many, there is a lunatic running loose in the asylum. A distracting noise aimed at your self destruction.

The Key, I believe is knowing your inner voice, it’s vulnerabilities and it’s power(when it’s good & when it’s bad). Knowing your inner voice & it’s behaviour, will give you more self control and the ability to be your true self, rather than have a “lunatic” in charge of your life.

Be good to yourselves

David

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15 indicators of frustration in your Life

Here goes………
  • You prefer to be alone than be with others
  • You let the ‘phone call go to voice mail
  • you don’t have a problem, everyone else does
  • you are easily distracted
  • you are bored with the things that used to give you joy
  • you are jealous of others’ success or recognition
  • you are unable to communicate or articulate your real needs
  • you lack  motivation
  • you lack  ideas
  • you have many ideas however lack the will to do anything with them
  • you have many ideas but don’t know where to start or how to put them in action
  • you kick your dog/cat without hesitation
  • you kick your neighbour’s dog/cat without hesitation
  • you blame others for your issues
  • you are unwilling to share yourself with family, friends or work colleagues

Hey, I could go on however I hope you are getting the picture. If any (or many) of these apply to you, do yourself a favour. Take a deep breath, make some quiet time and reflect on how you can turn this around. I assume that you do, I assume that you do want to be the best that you can be…….

OK,  can I suggest that you start with imagining a better life. A Life with little or no frustrations that will hold you back. There’s always some frustration in Life, but I’m talking about the frustrations that are specifically holding you back from being the success that you want to be.

It may not  happen overnight however you can make a start. And just making a start is a step in the right direction. You may need a helping hand, that’s ok…..ask, you don’t need to go it alone.  Contact a trusted friend, helping professional or you can always contact me and/or visit me @ www.davidstevenslifecoach.com.au

P.S I have include some other thoughts and tips on easing frustration, breaking your Rut in my previous posts, if you would like to view, here they are :

7 Thoughts to start helping you break your Rut ,

7 More Thoughts to help you break your Rut and Bust your Rut not your Butt…………

Be good to yourselves

David

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Is Achieving a Goal a form of Healing?

I can’t think of anything more uplifting than achieving a goal. Well I can but those details are best left out of this post.

Whether it was a short term goal or long term, the achievement gets the juices flowing. You could also say it is a form of healing –  Wow, what’s that you say?

You mean I don’t need to escape to “woo woo” land to be “healed”? That’s right, it may be all in your thoughts, which you can control. Escaping is easy, it weakens you, you’re giving your authority, your personal power to someone else.

Now, I have nothing against the “Healers” in our community. Many do a marvellous job for those who are in definite need of a helping hand.

However, many “normal people” feel the need  to escape to have their “shattered lives” healed. I mean it’s trendy. There’s a new buzzword, procedure or practitioner turning up every week it seems.

Now, here’s a thought……Imagine taking the time to set some meaningful goals, to rebuild your life, contibute to your own “self healing”. This is a form of committment to rather than an escape from your “shattered life”. Responsibility, personal accountability if you like. Maintaining your personal power if you will.

Committment/Choice is very powerful indeed. It’s harder than “escaping” however allowing yourself the choice to help yourself and committing to that choice is a strong foundation for your life and your future.

What do you think?

 

Be good to yourselves

David