Living Life Today – The Share Principle

“Living Life Today provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow”….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.

I recently published a post on “The Care Principle” and I would like to follow up with this post which is particularly relevant at this time of year. There are many in the World who are deserving of more care. They not only live in under developed countries, they live in our own neighbourhoods.

Reach out and share what you have…….

Sharing of thoughts, kind words, tangible goods, cash, conversational support. A shake of the hand, a warm embrace and a kind smile are all easy to give and mean so much. This time of year is historically a time of ‘goodwill unto all’.

However, wouldn’t it be nice to ‘extend’ this time of year to an all year sharing of goodwill…..what do you think about that?

“Sharing” oneself is great for the soul. The ability to share is with us all. We just need to flick the switch and turn on the ‘share mode’. It will make you a better person.

I know that many of my readers are very sharing folk and live this ideology daily. Let’s spread the message, share the care and make more people’s lives a lot better.

As with The Principle of Care , I have come up with my own Principle of Share below. I’d love you to ‘play’ with this a bit and share your own Principle’s of Share in the comments section.

Source of good

harmony with others

attitude of giving

respect for others

empathy

be good to yourselves….. and a very Merry Christmas to all

David

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Mind your Language, it’s getting a little hot in here

Cryptic, clear, decisive, antagonising, illuminating, happy, loving, caring, tormenting, rude, degrading, false, open,confused,irritating,bland,exciting,colourful,artful,crafted,free

These are just some of the ‘types of language that we use.

The language that we use both written & verbal places us “on show” & determines responses from others (& ourselves).

Is it just me or is the temperature rising? I’m not talking ‘global warming” here, I’m talking language.

In recent times, I have noticed the heat being turned up  both locally & globally. The language is becoming more intense.

When the heat rises so does the negativity, it seems to me, …….time for a cooler head.

  • Friction causes heat.
  • Friction between parties cause heated language.
  • Easing the friction, eases the heat, eases the negativity.

So how? A Cool head thought….maybe consider the other’s point of view instead of asserting yourself to be “in the right” and acting accordingly?

That’s the main reason for language friction in my opinion i.e  Someone has to be right & the other has to be wrong. It doesn’t make sense but hey, that’s conflict. There are other reasons of course. That can be debated at some other time. It’s not my intent to labour on that now.

Internal friction(heat causing) distorts the language used,  both to ourselves & to others.

I need to take a step back for a moment & review this epiphany…….wow

In other words, conflicting thoughts, irrational thoughts (both causes of internal friction), may cause “your heat” to rise. Now you don’t want to internally combust, do you?

When you “heat up”, negative thoughts come to the surface. Your ”language” skews & this has a flow on effect to the language you use to others. It doesn’t serve you well.

A Cool head thought…take a deep breath, exhale the negativity. Pause, calm down, allow your positive thoughts to percolate & come to the forefront of your thought stream. That’s a good start. When you feel calm(er) then continue your “conversation”. I hope you get my drift.

You cannot operate effectively when your thoughts & language overheat. We see that on the global stage daily. No doubt you see a lot of this locally as well. I tune out to most of this(TV News), that’s my way of handling/ignoring this issue (poor excuse I know). However I am not running away from this….

It still annoys me how people can (miss)treat others via the language that they use. Far greater progress would be made by acknowledging each other’s points of view & working collaboratively to solve our world’s great issues.Not by spending time & energy asserting themselves to be “right”.

Now, enough of the rant. Back to the all important you…….

Remember to mind your language, keep a cool head not a hot one.

This goes for the language that you use to yourself and to others. It is vitally important that your “internal language” is positive. Allows you to grow and have a positive effect on others.

What do you think about the language used in today’s world?

Are you speaking to yourself in a positive way?

Please share your thoughts.


be good to yourselves

David

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Say what you Really mean (part 3)

In the first two parts I explored the “negatives” of everyday language and it’s effect on how people may view situations.

In this final part, I will talk about  the difference between the way we use words as opposed to what we really mean to say. I will do this by posing a few questions but first, an observation – Politicians, how often do they say what they mean? They will go through all sorts of linguistic contortions rather than get to a point where a definitive point of view is made, raised or question answered. Now back to raising a few questions…..

Often you are wanting to say something but fearing the consequences of doing so…..so, how does that make you feel?.. Are you afraid of hurting someone’s feelings?.. Is the truth hard to divulge?.. Are you afraid of the answer(truth) that you will receive?..so what happens…you probably say nothing at all or avoid the issue by raising another topic.

So then how do you feel?.. guilty?..frustrated?..Get it out! Say it! What’s the worst that can happen? Being false, avoiding real issues, will catch up with you eventually and emotionally drain you, why torture yourself?

Even if you feel no guilt by being purposefully deceitful by not saying what you mean, you are gradually eroding your character. This will have a flow on effect in to other parts of your life and associations with others – you are doing yourself no favours!

Say what you really mean and the world will be a much better place.

Be good to yourselves

David