Maybe it’s time to light Your fire .. & keep it lit

Motivation is the beginning of something HUGE.

When you have Motivation, Life becomes easier.

However it’s not something that is always “at the ready”. Different things motivate different people.

Some people are simply unmotivated .. or so it seems.

Let’s just concentrate on the “unmotivated” for now.

Yes, I think that maybe You. Do I have your attention?Maybe it's time to light your fire Blog post

For the unmotivated, I’d like you to consider these 7 questions.

But please do it quickly. Life’s too short to stay unmotivated.

There’s also 1 answer that I believe can put All of these questions to rest.

But please, answer the questions firstly ..

 

What will my life look like tomorrow if I do nothing today?

Do I really want this day to repeat itself?

If I could do anything, what would that Be and would I do that today?

Can I look myself in the mirror and be proud?

What do my friends & family think of Me?

When I’m 60 what will I regret not doing earlier?

Is “there’s always tomorrow” my most common excuse?

The last question may give You a hint as to my One [1] answer.

Tomorrow is a chance to begin again. This is an oft used analogy.

For the unmotivated “tomorrow” just keeps coming. There is always another one so no pressure to change.

However you eventually run out of ‘tomorrows’ and suddenly you are that 60 year old sitting in the corner mulling over all of your regrets.

Is that the way you want it to be?

Can I be so bold as to suggest this? ..

Start Today as a new day .. and then consider each day onward as ‘new days’ rather than tomorrows.

Try that & see how You go.

You can motivate yourself. Your life deserves that at the very least.

 

Be good to yourself

David

Goal Kicker. Life Motivator for Men/Women 35-55.

Making Your 40’s & 50’s Shine

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Self Discovery for the over 40’s. The questions are just the start

I’ve said this before & I’ll say it again .. mid life is golden.

You have done the hard yards. You may wish to build upon your hard work in your existing area of Life and/or work or You may not.

After all, Choice is an amazing tool at Your disposal.

Would you now be asking yourself ”is this the way I want to continue to live the rest of my Life?

If Life is treating You well in every area, then please continue on. I’m proud of You.

However, if it is not ..

Well I am not hear to tell you to pack it all in & venture into the unknown totally unprepared.

No, what I am saying is reaching the mid life years can elicit ”a change in thinking” in some. If you are perfectly happy doing what you do then do more of it.

If You aren’t & you want to do introduce some positive changes in your life, start asking yourself some questions before you step any further, like

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“What really makes my heart sing”

”What will make my family proud of me”

”What will make Me proud of me”

”How will I feel knowing that I didn’t give my best shot,that I didn’t take a risk[s]”

”what is the worst that can happen”

“what support do I have”

”how far outside my comfort sphere am I prepared to step”

”am I the person I want to be” or “who do I want to be”

We are complex beings. There is a lot going on inside of us. And there is a lot more inside of us that we do not allow out. Untapped potential is what I am alluding to here.

This untapped potential can remain dormant for a Lifetime. What a waste.

Now more than ever, is your opportunity [there will be a lot of opportunities during mid life] to start tapping.

Not your toes, start tapping in to your potential – you have a lot of this inside of you.

Discovering your hidden reserves is a great start to living the rest of your Life with unlimited possibilities and endless horizons.

How about we make time for some more questions that you may wish to consider?

“How do I live my dream or ‘best’ Life”

”How will I know what is the best path to follow”

”Why am I afraid of what may lie ahead of me”

”Who will save me if I fall”

”how will I adapt to the changes that I want to make”

And now time for some more homegrown guidance & feedback;

I discovered some pretty cool things after I turned 40.

Turning 50 opened up more revelations for Me. Learning more about myself & the endless learnings that can be explored were just two. And they are a pretty important two.

Continuing to learn will ensure that you continue to grow as a person. This forms the base, the solid foundation for the rest of your Mid Life Adventure.

And learning [greater] Self Belief will go a long way to helping you answer the questions I just posed above, together with tapping in to your reserves of potential.

Don’t be afraid to fall, I know that it is scary.

Just have the faith & belief in yourself that you will get up .. and you will.

Therein lies your power. Your power to engage with & prosper from your “mid Life” years.

A couple more questions to finish,

  • ”what will be the deal breaker that will get me over the hump & get me to the line”
  • “what’s my end game, what do I really want, who do I want to become”

At the end of the day, the questions that I have shared can only be answered by you. However to gain the most from Life, questions are a great way to search within You & achieve what you want.

If you need a little help kickstarting your answers, I am available to help.

The better the question, the greater the gain.

Can I leave you with this final thought?

” Don’t just accept what is .. consider what if “

In other words .. consider & open up all possibilities and have the Belief that you can do it.

 

** This post is inspired by a few previous ‘Mid Life Self Discovery’ posts that I have done in recent years. Much of the content has been re used with some refurbishment & freshness.

 

Be good to yourself

David

Motivator. Life Coach. Listener.

Making Your 40’s & 50’s Shine

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Self Discovery & what it means for You

Around the age of 40, your perspective on Life will probably change.

For some [good] reason your thoughts turn to the 2nd half of your life and how you can continue/start to enjoy or improve your lot.

Questions will more than likely tug much harder at you. After all, you do want to discover what your future may hold, don’t you?

You want to ask the types of Questions that will get your mind percolating with fresh effervescent ideas.

Some Questions may cause you some angst.

Some Questions will probably make you sit up with surprise.Self Discovery Wp.com Blog post

Some Questions at the very least will make You take a good look at where you’re currently at & where you would like to be in the future.

Some of these Questions may look like this:

  • How do I really want to live the rest of my Life
  • What is vitally important to me Now
  • What will be important to me in 5/10  years
  • What, if any changes do I need to make to my current views on life
  • What support will I need if I decide to make [the necessary] changes
  • who will be affected [by my changes]
  • Are my Belief systems valid, up to date or need renewal
  • What are the top 3 personal Values that I want to live my Life by
  • How can I improve my health & fitness
  • am I really happy
  • Is my Love strong enough
  • what Life Goals do I need to set
  • do my skills need upgrading
  • what new skills do I wish to learn
  • what are my passions
  • what am I prepared to do to achieve my best Life
  • what am I prepared to let go of to achieve my life goals
  • How do I see myself, my self perception
  • what is my perception of the World. Do I fit in or do I want to.

Whatever questions you do end up asking of yourself, please follow through and achieve the answers that best suit you.

 

** This post was inspired by a previous post that I did on Self Discovery in April 2011

Be good to yourself

David

Motivator. Listener. Life Coach.

Making Your 40’s & 50’s Shine

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13 Real Questions You must ask if you want Personal Growth Success

Self Discovery and Personal Growth is an age long process.

You can always learn, or seek to learn, more about yourself. And of course, learn more about the environment in which you choose to live.

That being, the physical space/s and the people with whom you meet and how you adapt, learn from and be friend each.

The journey, [I dislike that word] adventure is better, of life includes your personal transformation from day one ….. to day “good bye”.

Your initial thoughts when you move toward and into adulthood may include, among other things, “what does life have to offer me?” Or “what do I have to offer to life?”Self Discovery Questions

The first question probably stops there and has no immediate follow up, because there are no immediate answers. You just have to move through life and see what happens … and then you will have your answer/s.

The second question [ far better in my opinion], has no immediate answers either however the thrust of this question will lead you to further questions and many answers, at each stage of your personal self discovery and growth adventure.

The more value questions that you ask will enable better answers. Better answers will help equip you with better tools to aid your personal growth.

I know that I’m taking you back in time so to speak, with the “moving toward/into adulthood thing”, however it is only for the intent to frame or put into context, the entirety of this post.

Because, you can ask yourself the above two questions at any stage of your life, perhaps now even?

Therefore, regardless of your current age, or stage of personal growth, all of the following questions will have varying degrees of relevance to You.

Please note that your personal growth is honed and developed over a long period of time. However your growth is slowed or stunted if you don’t continually take some sort of action.

Therefore, with some of these questions, I am getting you to think some years ahead. There’s no quick fix.

You need to be taking actions today to help you be the person you want to be in say, 10 years time and beyond.

These 13 Questions, can help start you to set the theme for your life OR change the current theme of your life:

The initial 6 pack:

  • How do I want to see myself develop as a person over the next 10 years
  • What’s vitally important to me Now, [to get me started or to keep me going]
  • What support will I need … physically, spiritually, financially, mentor wise
  • What are my passions. Do I have any, how do I find them
  • Am I prepared to do any worthwhile action to achieve my best Life
  • What am I prepared to forego to achieve the life that I want

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The 7 follow up’s:

  • Will my current ‘choices’ get me to where I want to be in 3, 5 or 10 years time
  • Am I aware of any limiting beliefs that will stand in my way
  • Do I make excuses
  • Do I consider myself a Victim of circumstance or do I take personal responsibility for my Life
  • What is my source of Inspiration … do I have one (or many)
  • What three (3) important achievements do I want to define my next 12 months
  • Do I commit to taking the necessary, ongoing actions to achieve what I really want

You won’t be able to or indeed want to, answer all of these right from the start. I suggest that you concentrate initially, on the opening six [6]. They will guide you. They will also determine whether you are actually prepared to make any changes, to get you where you want to be in life.

If you can’t get past the first six [6] then the remainder will be of little use.

The intent here is to lay all the cards on the table and to use these questions as a resource to reinvigorate your life’s theme. It may even be a completely fresh start for you.

Some of these questions may seem confronting. If they are, then I’ve done my job.

If you have been used to going with the flow and you have now found that the stream has dried up, then this will be a fresh start. And if you are going to make a fresh start then begin with questions that will launch your new adventure with a solid platform.

I hope this has given you something to think upon. If you would like to delve deeper, then please feel free to contact me anytime.

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Be good to yourself

David

Mid Life Motivator. Listener. Coach. 

Making Your 40′s & 50′s Shine

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Do You have an Excuse for not getting your Sh*t done today?

Hi again.

Let me tell you right from the get go that I feel so strongly about people using ExcusesThey trap you, hold you back and hold you down.

And they are completely unnecessary from a personal growth standpoint. That’s my opinion, upfront.

I’ve written about excuses before and am again motivated to delve once more into this murky world.

There are excuses that you use to simply avoid something completely or to just put things off.

Fair enough. I’ve done that. However, generally I’ve found that it’s far better to face it before you regret it [later].Excuses Blog post-2

Some situations are better handled later when you are in a more favourable position to do so.

For example when you have let go of your anger. And when you have gathered more information on “that situation”.

However other situations only get worse, the longer that you delay facing and dealing with them.

Deep down, You know what you really have to do in these situations.

There are “other excuses” that are given without you realising it.

This happens when your sublimimal conditioning has blocked your awareness [to opportunity].

Your mind is automatically saying “No” to many of the opportunities that present themselves to you.

And these are the most concerning.

The “voices” in your head are confirming that “you’re not good enough for that.”

“That’s too hard”. “You don’t have the skills for that”. ”That’s way out of your league”.

This all builds to an “avoidance culture”.

You are limiting your growth, your potential success and your relationship with self.

When you find yourself saying “No” often, or avoiding the “issue” often, start questioning yourself, “Why?”

Is their evidence to support you holding yourself back? At the end of the day, a lot of the reasons for your “avoidance” may be only imaginary because there are no real facts to support them.

Avoiding situations and people with [lame/poor, or even unwitting] excuses will dilute your personal power.

It will also narrow your choices when you are again faced with this situation. It will stagnate your personal growth.

I hope this has given you something to think upon.

How often do You avoid certain situations?

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**This post was refreshed April 29 2015

Be good to yourself

David

Motivator. Listener. Life Coach. 

Making Your 40′s & 50′s Shine

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Heading toward 60 [part 4] – An open letter to myself

My adventure continues toward my next [age related] milestone.
Lately, I’ve been asking myself some pretty serious questions. Some I have been able to answer, some I can’t … right now.
Here’s how it’s unfolded.

An open letter to myself …
David, you’ve long aspired to become the best Mid Life Coach on the planet, how are you going with this? You’ve worked hard at it, gained some traction then saw some of that traction slip away. How do You keep going?

You have inspired many on various Social Media channels with uplifting commentary & support and have gained many admirers. Is this a true reflection of your Life right now? You have been successful in encouraging others to pursue their dream & goals however have you sacrificed some dreams & goals of your own?

David, you mean well, your heart is in the right place however … is this enough to live the life that you really desire? Will You drive on and become the best Mid Life Coach on the planet?Self Discovery

I have more questions left unanswered than answered here. My purpose in life is to live a purposeful life. I love supporting others with their dreams & goals throughout their Mid life years and removing any of their obstacles along the way … and I will continue to love that.

I just have to find the best way to do this so that I have a “win” as well as my clients. The adventure continues. Calmness and deep breathing mandatory.

Be good to yourself

David

Your Mid Life Revitaliser Coach.

Listener. Motivator.

Inspiring Creativity & Purpose for Men & Women 40+

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Self Discovery … it starts with the Questions

I wrote two posts some time back [2011 & early 2012] on Self Discovery which sparked & continues to spark interest. Questions are at the heart of what I do as a Coach & more importantly should be at the heart of what You do/want to do as a person.

So, instead of banishing these posts to the archives, I have shown them the light of day once more. Please humour me and  have a read and share  if you feel the posting is worthy …….

“Around the age of 40, your perspective on Life often changes (or not for some). For some (good) reason our Thoughts turn to the 2nd half of our lives and how we can continue/start to enjoy or improve our lot…..it did for me at least.  I’d like to throw a few questions at you for your consideration, fascination, procrastination, motivation or what other “ation” grabs your fancy.Self Discovery

Can these questions (I’m sure there are more) get your minds percolating with fresh effervescent ideas? or at least, to take a good look at where you’re currently at & where you would like to be?……I hope so.

  • How do I really want to live the rest of my Life
  • What impact on myself, my significant others do I want to make in the next 10 years
  • What’s vitally important to me Now
  • What, if any changes do I need to make
  • What support will I need if I decide to make changes
  • who will be affected(by my changes)
  • Are my Belief systems valid, up to date or need renewal
  • What are my top 3 personal Values that I want to live my Life by
    • How can I improve my health & fitness
    • how much of my potential am I prepared to tap in to
    • am I happy
    • Is my Love strong enough
    • what Life Goals do I need to set
    • do my skills need upgrading
    • what new skills do I wish to learn
    • what are my passions
    • what am I prepared to do to achieve the Life of my dreams
    • what am I prepared to forego to achieve………
    • how can I share myself, my passions, my skills with others
      • How do I see myself, my self perception
      • what is my perception of the World….do I fit in or do I want to

And here are a few more questions from the second post that may get you thinking …..

  • Am I happy with the way things are now
    • Will my current ‘choices’ get me to where I want to be
  • Do I commit to taking action to achieve what I really want
  • Are my thoughts helping me
  • Am I aware of any limiting beliefs that will stand in my way
  • Do I make excuses
  • Do I consider myself a Victim of circumstance or do I take personal responsibility for my Life

When one takes full responsibility for their Life, any prior obstacles or distractions are now seen as opportunities, to expand one’s view of LifeQuestion2

  • Am I motivated to achieve what I want…..is the fire inside me well fueled
  • Do I appreciate myself
  • Do I need external motivation, a Coach or Mentor
  • What is my source of Inspiration…..do I have one (or many)
  • What three (3) important achievements will define this current year
  • Do my Values and Beliefs need reviewing…..are they still valid
  • Am I willing to raise the bar on my performance
  • Do I settle for less than I deserve
  • Is my ‘Big Picture’ complete or is it still a work in progress

This is an opportune time to complete your ‘picture’…..sketch it first if you have to and ‘paint’ it in later…..at least make a start.

  • Do I have support, people who I can rely on
  • Where do I want to be with my Life in 5 years
  • In 10 years time when I Iook back at my achievements, or lack of ‘action’, how will I feel
  • Is there anything stopping me from making progress on my Vision today
  • How will I feel, when my ” dream” comes alive

The Mid Life years are ones to be treasured. With the right thoughts, actions and dreams/visions you can “extend” your mid life beyond the generally accepted norms … no time to dwell on ‘old age’ thoughts when you are flourishing in your mid life years … let’s get to it!

Ref: https://personalpower4me.wordpress.com/2011/04/19/21-self-discovery-questions-to-enrich-your-mid-life-journey/

Ref: https://personalpower4me.wordpress.com/2012/01/16/21-more-self-discovery-questions-for-the-40s-enriching-your-mid-life-journey-in-2012/

Be good to yourself

David

The Mid Life Coach.

Helping You take the action that You need to take.

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