Self Discovery for the over 40’s. The questions are just the start

I’ve said this before & I’ll say it again .. mid life is golden.

You have done the hard yards. You may wish to build upon your hard work in your existing area of Life and/or work or You may not.

After all, Choice is an amazing tool at Your disposal.

Would you now be asking yourself ”is this the way I want to continue to live the rest of my Life?

If Life is treating You well in every area, then please continue on. I’m proud of You.

However, if it is not ..

Well I am not hear to tell you to pack it all in & venture into the unknown totally unprepared.

No, what I am saying is reaching the mid life years can elicit ”a change in thinking” in some. If you are perfectly happy doing what you do then do more of it.

If You aren’t & you want to do introduce some positive changes in your life, start asking yourself some questions before you step any further, like

Discover Yourself

Discover Yourself


“What really makes my heart sing”

”What will make my family proud of me”

”What will make Me proud of me”

”How will I feel knowing that I didn’t give my best shot,that I didn’t take a risk[s]”

”what is the worst that can happen”

“what support do I have”

”how far outside my comfort sphere am I prepared to step”

”am I the person I want to be” or “who do I want to be”

We are complex beings. There is a lot going on inside of us. And there is a lot more inside of us that we do not allow out. Untapped potential is what I am alluding to here.

This untapped potential can remain dormant for a Lifetime. What a waste.

Now more than ever, is your opportunity [there will be a lot of opportunities during mid life] to start tapping.

Not your toes, start tapping in to your potential – you have a lot of this inside of you.

Discovering your hidden reserves is a great start to living the rest of your Life with unlimited possibilities and endless horizons.

How about we make time for some more questions that you may wish to consider?

“How do I live my dream or ‘best’ Life”

”How will I know what is the best path to follow”

”Why am I afraid of what may lie ahead of me”

”Who will save me if I fall”

”how will I adapt to the changes that I want to make”

And now time for some more homegrown guidance & feedback;

I discovered some pretty cool things after I turned 40.

Turning 50 opened up more revelations for Me. Learning more about myself & the endless learnings that can be explored were just two. And they are a pretty important two.

Continuing to learn will ensure that you continue to grow as a person. This forms the base, the solid foundation for the rest of your Mid Life Adventure.

And learning [greater] Self Belief will go a long way to helping you answer the questions I just posed above, together with tapping in to your reserves of potential.

Don’t be afraid to fall, I know that it is scary.

Just have the faith & belief in yourself that you will get up .. and you will.

Therein lies your power. Your power to engage with & prosper from your “mid Life” years.

A couple more questions to finish,

  • ”what will be the deal breaker that will get me over the hump & get me to the line”
  • “what’s my end game, what do I really want, who do I want to become”

At the end of the day, the questions that I have shared can only be answered by you. However to gain the most from Life, questions are a great way to search within You & achieve what you want.

If you need a little help kickstarting your answers, I am available to help.

The better the question, the greater the gain.

Can I leave you with this final thought?

” Don’t just accept what is .. consider what if “

In other words .. consider & open up all possibilities and have the Belief that you can do it.

 

** This post is inspired by a few previous ‘Mid Life Self Discovery’ posts that I have done in recent years. Much of the content has been re used with some refurbishment & freshness.

 

Be good to yourself

David

Motivator. Life Coach. Listener.

Making Your 40’s & 50’s Shine

** Search #DavidLifeCoach to find me on Social Media

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Not just Any Goal

Goals can just be goals or Goals can be more than that.

They can be something that excite you.

But more of that later.

Life is getting away. You know that it’s too short.

And You have dreams that you want to come true. Firstly, you know that you will need to strengthen your resolve to pursue those dreams by setting some goals.

But you aren’t talking about “just goals”. This time,You need some real structure and punch, to elevate your game to a higher level.Goals that excite You

When you’ve navigated your way to 40 & beyond and you have even Bigger plans for the rest of your life, your goals need to be Big as well.

Outlandish, outrageous Goals? Not necessarily … but they will need to be bold in their structure and purposeful in their intent.

Add to “Purpose” a liberal sprinkling of excitement and “out of the comfort zone daring” and then your mix has come alive.

You are in the prime of your life. By setting these purposeful goals you will be taking great steps to ensure that you springboard into and through the next 10 years or so..

This is a period in your life where you should be looking to stretch your thoughts and your imagination. Imagine Bigger, imagine Better. Get your juices flowing.

Yes, I know you think that only others have the Big Dreams and get the Big rewards.

You can as well. You are only limited by your thinking.

Now is the time for Bigger thinking. Broader thinking. Creative thinking.

And You can do this.

Time gets away. You and I both know that. I can’t stress enough, the need for You to maximise this time so that your years beyond 50 are just as rewarding as the next 10 years can be … and with effort are likely to be even better.

Starting Today, begin mapping your thoughts on how you want this year to finish and next year to evolve.

Build on that by expanding your horizons and take a snapshot of where you would like yourself to be in 3, 5,10 years from now. Financially wise, personal growth wise, family wise and perhaps spiritually wise.

Write it down. It doesn’t have to be perfect right now. Just let out your thoughts. You can make more detailed sense of them later [not too much later, though].

But very importantly, build your framework through Your goals, your support crew and your dreams.

Believe in yourself to make this happen! and get the support to help you build on this Belief. Start taking action Today!

Be good to yourself

David

Motivator. Listener. Life Coach. 

Making Your 40′s & 50′s Shine

** Search #DavidLifeCoach to find many of my Social Media postings

Setting up your Life beyond 40

Often men & women entering their 40’s start to reflect on what has happened in their life to date.

You may have reflected upon the same.

Where has my life gone?

What am I going to do with the rest of My life?

May be two such questions that You will ask of yourself.

“Is there something else for Me?” is another common call from those who may be stuck with their current circumstances. It smacks of staleness and sameness. A change of direction could be on the cards then? Is this You?

The phenomena of mid-life crisis is felt by many & for varying reasons. The thought that half your Life has gone is scary. The thought that the next half of your Life is around the corner & you have no plans to live it, is even more scarier!Life beyond 40 Blog post

Goal setting may seem “ho-hum” to many, however without some definitive plan for your future, “the crisis & the rut” are likely to continue.

Before you even consider setting yourself some goals, you do need to be motivated to create something worthwhile for the balance of your life. Without the desired motivation, any goals that are set, will eventually fade into the ether.

The process doesn’t need to be hard or difficult, you just need to commence thinking along more positive lines. And You need to get started.

Changing your thoughts starts to change the dynamics of your life. That’s a pretty good place to commence, don’t you think?

Start to view things differently. A healthy change of perspective, if you will.

It doesn’t have to be the same as it always has!

It all starts with your thinking. And then the motivation to follow this through.

Motivation with supporting action steps will bind together with your changing perspective on your life.

You are heading in to the next phase of your life. Establishing goals for it may seem daunting, especially if you have had no previous exposure to Goal Setting or have resisted it in the past.

However, the effort is worth it! Getting started is the hardest part though once you have, ‘the flow’ will commence.

The goal setting process of itself, is not that difficult. It is your life and your goals are your goals, they are what’s important to you.

So map out what are the most important goals for you to achieve. That’s probably the easiest part.

Any difficulties will arise if you don’t commit to them fully. If you find it hard going, contact a reliable Life Coach to give you the necessary support & encouragement.

My main point for this post is to ensure that you set your “back half” up correctly.

Age 40 & beyond is a wonderful place to be.

Your views on Life are changing. Your goals in Life no doubt need changing [or at least reviewing] as well.

Ask yourself, “What is really important to ME?”:

Now, the next 5 -10 years.

Time will not wait for you. Clarifying the important aspects of your life will help you set Meaningful Goals for now & your future.

** This post was refreshed April 27 2015

Be good to yourself

David

Motivator. Life Coach. Listener. 

Making Your 40’s & 50’s Shine

** Search #DavidLifeCoach to view many of my Social Media postings

 

Self Discovery & what it means for You

Around the age of 40, your perspective on Life will probably change.

For some [good] reason your thoughts turn to the 2nd half of your life and how you can continue/start to enjoy or improve your lot.

Questions will more than likely tug much harder at you. After all, you do want to discover what your future may hold, don’t you?

You want to ask the types of Questions that will get your mind percolating with fresh effervescent ideas.

Some Questions may cause you some angst.

Some Questions will probably make you sit up with surprise.Self Discovery Wp.com Blog post

Some Questions at the very least will make You take a good look at where you’re currently at & where you would like to be in the future.

Some of these Questions may look like this:

  • How do I really want to live the rest of my Life
  • What is vitally important to me Now
  • What will be important to me in 5/10  years
  • What, if any changes do I need to make to my current views on life
  • What support will I need if I decide to make [the necessary] changes
  • who will be affected [by my changes]
  • Are my Belief systems valid, up to date or need renewal
  • What are the top 3 personal Values that I want to live my Life by
  • How can I improve my health & fitness
  • am I really happy
  • Is my Love strong enough
  • what Life Goals do I need to set
  • do my skills need upgrading
  • what new skills do I wish to learn
  • what are my passions
  • what am I prepared to do to achieve my best Life
  • what am I prepared to let go of to achieve my life goals
  • How do I see myself, my self perception
  • what is my perception of the World. Do I fit in or do I want to.

Whatever questions you do end up asking of yourself, please follow through and achieve the answers that best suit you.

 

** This post was inspired by a previous post that I did on Self Discovery in April 2011

Be good to yourself

David

Motivator. Listener. Life Coach.

Making Your 40’s & 50’s Shine

Search #DavidLifeCoach to find many of my Social Media postings

 

 

 

3 ways to elevate Your game & achieve Your Mid Life Goals

Hi there fellow Life Lover.

No, this isn’t another post on Goals. 

You see,Goals can just be goals or Goals can be something that excites you.

But more of that later.

You’re heading toward 45.

And You have dreams that you want to come true. Firstly, you know that you will need to strengthen your resolve to pursue those dreams by setting some goals.

But you aren’t talking about “just goals”. This time,You need some real structure and punch, to elevate your game to a higher level.Pass the Juice WP Blog post

When you’ve navigated your way to 45 and you have even Bigger plans for the rest of your life, your goals need to be Big as well.

Outlandish, outrageous Goals? Not necessarily … but they will need to be bold in their structure and purposeful in their intent.

I’ve already mentioned “Purpose”. Add to that a liberal sprinkling of excitement and “out of the comfort zone daring” and then your mix has come alive.

You are in the prime of your life. By setting these purposeful goals you will be taking great steps to ensure that you springboard into and through the next 10 years.

This is a period in your life where you should be looking to stretch your thoughts and your imagination. Imagine Bigger, imagine Better. Get your juices flowing.

Yes, I know you think that only others have the Big Dreams and get the Big rewards.

You can as well. You are only limited by your thinking.

Now is the time for Bigger thinking. Broader thinking. Creative thinking.

And You can do this.

Time gets away. You and I both know that. I can’t stress enough, the need for You to maximise this time so that your years beyond 55 are just as rewarding as the next 10 years can be … and with effort are likely to be even better.

Starting Today, begin mapping your thoughts on how you want this year to finish and next year to evolve.

Build on that by expanding your horizons and take a snapshot of where you would like yourself to be in 3, 5,10 years from now. Financially wise, personal growth wise, family wise and perhaps spiritually wise.

Write it down. It doesn’t have to be perfect right now. Just let out your thoughts. You can make more detailed sense of them later [not too much later, though].

But very importantly, build your framework through Your goals, your support crew and your dreams.

Believe in yourself to make this happen! and get the support to help you build on this Belief. Start taking action Today!

** This post was refreshed September 7 2015

 

Be good to yourself

David

Motivator. Life Coach. Listener. 

Making Your 40′s & 50′s Shine

Search #DavidLifeCoach to find many of my Social Media postings

Please join me for coffee, fresh writings, fresh thoughts and ideas at :

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Heading toward 60 [part 5] Road Trip?

Hi again,

It’s been a little while since  we last embraced.

The truth is, I’ve been focussed on and engaged with, my website, Google+, clients and other things Social Media in recent weeks. And it’s been very exciting. Engagement, meaningful conversations, purpose and excitement are words that come readily to mind. Oh, and Energy of course.Self Discovery

A Fulfilling energy in fact, if there is such a thing. Maybe, “feel good” would be more apt.

I feel the same [better actually] as when I turned 59 4 months ago. The realisation of turning 60 at the end of this year hasn’t sunk in. And it probably won’t, even when I ‘touch down’ @60. When the energy is good numbers are just numbers.

You see, I’m a serial age denier. After all, Age is just a number [ I’m repeating myself I know]. Is this what happens as you get older?.

It’s always in the feeling. When you feel good, nothing else matters. Worries are not worries any more. Dreams are better dreams. Goals are easy.

My youngest daughter said to me the other day … “For your birthday, why don’t we go visit your sister down in the country, we haven’t been there before?”

This got me to thinking [I’m prone to that] … why not a road trip for a week or so and visit all my relatives and friends across the state? A few days of birthday celebration. That’s what I’ll do. Plan. Execute.

By the way, the state that I live in here in Australia is the size of a couple of European countries. Heading toward 60 with Excitement.

Be good to yourself

David

Mid Life Guide. Coach. Listener. Motivator.

Inspiring Creativity & Purpose for Men & Women 40+

Please join me for coffee, fresh writings, fresh thoughts and ideas at :

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and visit my website for inspiration, motivation, creativity & purpose:

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How to seize This moment …

The next 10 years will be the most pivotal and defining of Your life. Don’t let them slip away.

You are about to enter your 40’s and may be feeling some apprehension about what lies ahead. It could be just vanity? … hey, none of us like getting older.

Or, it could be something else? Like ..

You have no idea what you want to achieve over the next year let alone the next few years. Or you do, however are not sure how to go about it and don’t like asking for help.How to seize this moment WP Blog post (1)

Fast forward 10 years ..

You are now turning 50.  Firstly Congratulations. Secondly, how have the last 10 years been for You?

These two scenarios play out in the lives of millions of people every day.

I venture to say that at least 90% of the people now turning 50 have little idea where the last 10 years went or how unproductive they really were.

Unproductive from a viewpoint that opportunities have come & gone without notice and personal growth has been largely non – existent.

Put simply, life is precious & life gets away very quickly.

You can “go with the flow” & see [hope] where that takes You or you can make some choices and set some guide posts for the years to come.

This matters.

The moment is Now.

Now is when You make the Choice to make each day & year of Your life count.

No regrets.

All opportunities embraced. Mistakes will be made, lessons will be learned.

However, this is Living by ‘doing’. And that’s the best way to live.

That aside, You can be one of the tens of thousands who seek help from trusted Coaches or mentors or Life Guides.

Doing this is one of the best choices that you can make. Rarely do people “make it” by themselves.

Reach out and live more fully

 

** This post was refreshed September 7 2015

 

Be good to yourself

David

Life Coach. Listener. Motivator.

 Making Your 40’s & 50’s Shine

Search #DavidLifeCoach to find many of my Social Media postings

Please join me for coffee, fresh writings, fresh thoughts and ideas at :

                 www.davidstevenslifecoach.com.au/blog

and visit my website for inspiration, motivation, creativity & purpose:

                 www.davidstevenslifecoach.com.au