Largely because I have offered myself to many “get outs” or let’s call them for what they are…Excuses.
The funny (or not) thing about this is that I didn’t consider them to be excuses…..but they were.
Subtle, little self talk. Friendly enough. However not the type of friend that makes for a lasting relationship.
When an opportunity comes your way it isn’t always obvious. It may be a “dare”. It may be something “different”. It may be hidden and only revealed once you commit to taking that extra step.
When an obvious opportunity comes your way, you have a choice…either to accept or decline. Now there may well be excellent reasons to do either.
However has excuse played a part in this choice…with or without you knowing?
Excuses make choice easy. You just bail out, fade away from making a more valuable decision…it’s an easy way out. That’s the problem, we like things to be easy.
Opportunities are often ‘hard won’. As I said earlier, they are not always obvious. A great opportunity may unveil itself after a long journey of trial, repetition, trial again, persistence, doubt, perserverance…..
then hey presto! opportunity knocks, it’s staring you in the face.
An obvious opportunity, one that simply presents itself to you & has apparent benefits, should provide a straightforward response. When it doesn’t, there’s a problem.
When your default response is “No”…excuses may be at play.
Excuses can come from doubt, fear, lack of confidence and people constantly telling you that you can’t do stuff…and you believe it. This then becomes part of your makeup without you being consciously aware.
So when opportunity comes a knockin’, You will find ways to excuse.
A Solution that I will offer is this. Catch yourself/be aware when you are saying “No”, thoughtwise or out loud. Question yourself as to the reason. Is it realistic to be saying “No”?, is it practical?
If it is then fine. If you can’t find a realistic or practical reason then you need to dig deeper. There may be some programming issues/excuses at play…..then get someone to help you with this. I’d hate to see you missing opportunities.
be good to yourselves
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