What story are you Telling?

Is it one of pain or is it one of gain?

Is it one of sadness or is it one of happiness?

Like it or not, you tell your story to the world via your dialogue and your actions….AND

You also tell your story to yourself, via internal dialogue (self talk) and your thoughts.

So,what story are you telling and is it the real story?

People sometimes create a story line to suit their “audience”. Pure Fiction to create a headline or several or make them feel better about themselves. This storyline after time becomes “fact”, to the story teller(is this you?) and to his/her “readers”.

Fictional stories are a form of escapism. They are a great read. However when it’s your story, escaping from your real truths will likely hurt you in the end.

The opening chapters of your Life may not have been happy reading and….. not every story has a happy ending…….however you can take steps to make it the best ending possible.

Starting Today,You have the ability to rewrite your script,  rewrite the future chapters of your Life based on your new story…….sick of the analogies?….Sorry, just trying to get your attention.

So what will your new story be?…. It will start by facing up to your realities.

One needs to deal with these scenarios firstly;

  • Who are you really?…..is this the real you?
  • What do you want to get out of Life? …..do you know?
  • Do you have a Purpose or are you just going through the motions?
  • Are you living in a fairytale or a dreamworld full of falsehoods and are unable to (want) to escape?
  • Do you want to be the best real you that you can be?

If you want to answer these questions truthfully, you will be part way there. This will be the beginning of your new story…….the real story.

I am not going to write the ending for your story. The rest is up to you. Good luck.

P.S……If you want your story to change, I’ll be very happy to listen.

be good to yourselves


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22 thoughts on “What story are you Telling?

  1. I think we all have a story to tell. Most have stories of pain as we have all been through pain. But when we need to focus on, is creating a story of triumph, victory and success. This is what matters and this leads to long lasting, happy and successful life.

    1. Hi Jonathan,
      Thank you for calling in. If we can all focus on a story of triumph(over pain), victory & success the world would move forward & be a better place. Thank you, great point.
      be good to yourself

  2. Just finished a brilliant book by Donald Miller – A Million Miles in a Thousand Years. In his very personal book, he looks at life as a story … every tiny bit of your everyday life. And then asks if people were to make a movie of your life, would viewers be engaged or bored.

    He explores the aspects that make a great story – thriving over challenge, empathy for the lead character because of their flawed but still great personality and being part of something bigger. He looks at how moments become memorable, through making the effort to do something interesting, and in participating and not just watching.

    Through writing the book, Donald realised his life was boring … very boring. And he started to live a bigger life – in effect writing a better story of his life.

    I loved this approach and am now looking through my eyes as if they were a film camera. I also love the concept of writing a better story for my life. A story that engages, entrances and feels full and complete.

    And I love the idea that memorable moments take just that little bit more effort. You could just cook tea, or you could dance with your family in the kitchen while you were cooking. You could just drive to the Sunday markets, or you could suddenly turn left instead of right and go on an adventure.

    At funerals, it is the memorable moments that are talked about, not the: got up, brushed their teeth & went to work. It is the time you suddenly started a water fight during a picnic. It is the way you used to put on AC/DC when you would vacuum and sing into the nozzle. And its the family snuggles in bed on a Sunday morning, giggling and talking about “stuff”.

    So here’s to better stories, more memorable moments and the courage to push beyond the every day.

    1. Wow Ingrid,
      Your story is getting better by the minute. Keep turning the pages, build chapter upon chapter & I know that it will be a great read. I appreciate you taking the time to share such a great comment. Thank you.
      be good to yourself

  3. Hi David,
    This is the kind of post that I enjoy reading. Telling our old story is getting old, it’s time to tell a story that is more in truth and alignment with who we really are.

    Especially during these times when we know that we have more control over our lives than we could of possibly imagined.

    1. I’m glad you enjoyed this Justin,
      It’s the kind of post I enjoy writing & thinking a lot about. Always aim to tell your “best” story. You can only do this when it’s truthful. Thankyou.
      be good to yourself

  4. Our future is formed by the thoughts we hold most often. Not only do we literally become what we think about; we are all given the gift of being able to write our own story. Isn’t that great?

    1. Hi Rachel,
      I can’t think of anything better. We do have the ability to write whatever story we want, I choose the positive one. I appreciate you calling in, thank you.
      be good to yourself

  5. I, personally, don’t understand how to lie about my life. The truth is complicated enough. Of course I’m one of those who is a little gutsy and will take a chance if what is to be gained is worth something to me.

    Great post, David.

    1. It can be tough when you have complicated “truths” Glynis. However we all experience this at some point. As long as you are living your truth, you are stepping in the right direction. Which was the point behind my post. Many tell stories to hide the truth, which is a shame. To move toward a fulfilled Life in my opinion, being authentic & truthful are musts. Thank you for calling in.
      be good to yourself

  6. I found this post extremely helpful, David.
    Sometimes it’s hard to stand out from the crowd rather than fitting in with what we think is expected. I guess that’s what you mean when you say that we ‘lie’ about ourselves.

    I wish I’d been able to be more ‘truthful’ when I was younger. By this I mean, able to disagree in a discussion, to take the opposing view if that’s how I felt. I don’t think I knew myself or my story very well in those days. It’s only in the last few years that I know ‘me’ better. I try to be authentic so people know that what they’re getting is genuine.

    1. Great to see you again Linda,
      Yes it’s along those lines as well as being truthful with ourselves & showing as the real you rather than a replica. We have all fallen into ‘story traps’. I am happy that the real you is showing through. Thank you for your comment.
      be good to yourself

  7. it really is up to us whether our life is a drama or comedy, tragedy or anthology, isn’t it? sometimes we forget that and let our story sweep us along instead of pausing for re-writes! thanks for the reminder.
    For some reason I haven’t been receiving your posts in my inbox. Checked settings in WordPress and that seems fine so not sure why.
    walk in beauty.

    1. Hi Joss,
      We all have the ability to write a magnificent story for ourselves. Just got to find the truth, look within & start ‘writing”. Get rid of the ‘falsehoods’.
      be good to yourself

    1. Hi Tess,
      Great to see you. Keep on telling yourself a better story. You are coming from a base of ‘truth’ which makes the story writing much more pleasurable.
      be good to yourself

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