The language that we use has an effect on not only the receiver but the giver as well. In recent times, the “double negative” has intruded our everyday language, e.g, “not a bad effort”, “not too bad” and the list goes on – whatever happened to ‘great’, ‘fantastic, ‘good’? – are we expecting less or are we afraid of saying what we really mean in case someone takes exception to our comment?
Lowering your personal standards/outlooks/expectations/desires impacts on your thoughts and as a consequence, your actions and your relationships. Anyway, when you ask someone how they feel and they say “not too bad”, what does that mean, how does that make you feel?…think about it…until next time.
Be good to yourselves