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I recently had a moment of extreme clarity. The funny thing about it was that it came at 4 a.m . I was woken by the rain then bang! it hit me. Crystal clear thoughts…..a breakthrough. Something that I had been working on/thinking about for, I don’t know, seems like eons.
And then it was “there”. And then it snowballed. Further pieces of clarity came cascading thru. I wrote them down. Random scribbles of thoughts that were coming to me.
Later in the morning I returned to my scribbling and pieced it all together.
And now I can move forward again…..with a clearer perspective.
Moral of this story…..don’t force, simply allow.
We chase answers. We try to force outcomes.
Often the answers (or fresh questions which lead to the answers) come at a time not of our choosing.
Never give up. If you plant the seed then growth will occur.
be good to yourselves
David
Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.
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You are entering your Mid Life years and begin to wonder where your Life has gone. You may have many regrets. More importantly, you are having difficulty seeing a way forward. You have vague dreams of a future that should be better than what you have now.
“How do I start to get my Life in better shape?”
Try these questions and see if they will give you a framework on which to build a Life to be proud of…… Be honest, take the time to absorb each question before moving on to the next.
Am I prepared to do what it takes?…..Well, are you? To move forward, changes will need to be made.
Will doing this now make the difference?…..The short answer is “yes”. One more day of regret is one day too much. There may be too much to lose by procrastinating over any change that you need to make. If you are unsure of the change needed, contact someone who can help you.
Do I Love my Life?…..Remember when life was fun? You may need to fall in love with your Life all over again. Do this and the sparks will begin to fly… new, exciting thoughts and actions will follow.
What will happen if I do nothing?…..more lamenting no doubt. Is this what you really want? Doing nothing means things stay the way that they currently are.
How can I make this better?…..by changing what you are doing currently. If your future seems cloudy, change is essential in order to make it clearer. Again, seek help if you can’t find the answers yourself. It’s often difficult doing this on your own.
What will my children think?…..Indeed. Setting a better example will be rewarding in time. Get passionate about your Life and the rewards will be unimaginable.
Can I still be successful?…..Absolutely you can. You are entering a golden period of Life. Many successful people didn’t get started until their forties…you can too.
Are these questions helpful? What other questions do you feel would assist?
Feel free to share your thoughts.
Be good to yourselves
David
Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.
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Now let us drill down a bit. The way I look at “self discovery” is by starting with questioning. Simply beginning to question what you are about, what you’ve done in the past, are doing now or the meaning behind what you have done and where you would like to go with your Life, starts you on your Self discovery trail.
Where it ends, well that’s up to you. If you are prepared to continue to question yourself….in a nice way, then you will discover more. The deeper you go, the deeper the discovery.
Do we end up learning all there is to learn about ourselves? …probably not.
Some go on a “quest”…they will literally travel & search the four corners of the earth looking for the missing ingredient(s) in their lives. Searching for more…..knowledge/inner meaning/truth/enlightenment.
Knowledge is a good thing…..you can’t know too much, I feel. It just depends upon what you learn. Is it valuable or is it just stuff?
Many will continue to yearn for more, to discover our inner most secrets. We will read, we will listen, we will look. All this is admirable.
The “science” is in looking in the right places.
I like to know more. This allows me to grow. I have picked up countless pointers that set me off on my trail to discover more.
Some of the ‘pointers’ are simply short phrases or ‘key’ words that make me think in a different way. They usually lead me to more questions, more “what if’s”. I’m no Self discovery junkie’ but it’s refreshing to be able to change my angle on Life at opportune times & therefore discover…..just a little bit more.
I don’t like staleness.
Which leads me to the second part of the heading…..”trial & error”. Yes, life can be like that. You try out something and see if it’s a good fit for you. If it’s not, then you try something else. The key here is that…you must try. I don’t see any use going thru life not knowing who you truly are or what you are really capable of.
“Trial and error” is where the great discoveries have been & will likely always be made.
“…..what you are really capable of”. Just hold that thought. It’s something that I think of quite regularly. What more can I discover about myself (good things only please) that will expand my capabilities? Am I on the verge of “greatness”?…..are we all?
Whether it’s a quest to the four corners of the earth or to the four corners of your mind, discovery of self is the greatest discovery that we can make. We will probably make a few mistakes here and there. We will continue to read, to listen, to look, to think, to question or we may get fed up and call it quits. Whatever you decide to do…..do it well (and don’t call it quits, I was only kidding).
Tell me what you think. Do you feel that self discovery is an exact science or do you prefer the trial & error method OR perhaps…a combination of the two?
be good to yourselves
David
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English: Path junction in Pheasant Copse At this point the footpath which has travelled for about 3Km SE from Ragham Lodge turns left towards Limbo Lodge. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
I am stepping thru Life, mostly forward.
However there are times when my steps become heavy. Like walking thru thick thigh deep mud. It’s an effort to raise my legs for another step.
Must rest.
Effort it seems, does not always bring “reward”.
Does this sound familiar to you? The steps you take appear to be getting you nowhere?
Do you then Stop and go no further, give up?
I had an illumination a while back andrealised… that the Reward is really in the Effort.
Now when I rest, it is to review the path and see how far I have come. All those ‘efforts’, those steps…I have come a fair way indeed.
And when I see that, I reward myself. A self congratulatory ‘pat on the back’, some positive silent self talk, the occasional yell of delight.
When you rest, try spending a few minutes checking your path well worn. How far haveyou come? Is your path straight and narrow, winding, full of detours, U-turns or are you back to where you started?
My shoes are well worn now. Though I can always get another pair.
This is the effort. My shoes are a metaphor for all those efforts that I have put in. When my efforts seem exhausted, I can dig deep for some more (get another pair of shoes).
And I can say that my path has had it’s fair share of detours, U-turns and winds. However I believe I have come far…and that pleases me. I realise also that I have far to go.
There is a ‘destination’. I can make it out in the distance, beyond the hills and valleys but I can see it. This pleases me.
This is the choice that you have and have always had. Keep wearing the same pair of shoes, keep them nice & clean, wear them only on certain days of the week and stay where you are in Life OR
wear them out with effort…moving yourself forward…step by step and getting somewhere with your Life.
Keep stepping Life Lovers.
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How often do you question your actions, beliefs, your Life?
Do you have a need to?
Have you thought that there may be an alternative to what you are doing in your Life right now?
Which begs the question…”Do I carry on as per usual OR do I look for answers that can lead me toward a more fulfilling Life?”
This is assuming that your “usual” may not be fulfilling. By all means, if you have your Life in the order that is giving you excitement and content, please carry on.
Now if things aren’t the way that you would like, asking some questions may well be “the answer” that you have been looking for.Which ones are best?…for example
What questions will allow you to grow?
Which questions will start unlocking the answers for you?
Do your questions pose more problems than answers?
The last “poser” is an interesting kettle of fish. What if (there’s those two words again) when we start to ask ourselves questions, we dig ourselves a hole and create more problems than what we had to start with?…(sorry about the long sentence)
I suggest you not worry about that. Simply asking a straight up question won’t necessarily give you a straight up answer. There’s often a detour here and there before the answer reveals itself. The trick is to keep investigating, keep opening up the possibilities thru the art of questioning until…..you arrive at the answer that you are looking for.
It’s a great start to just take the time to look at where you currently stand with your Life. You can either accept your current position and do no more or you can look at ways of improving your current position (if you are not happy), as simple as that.
“How can I…” “What do I…” ”How will I…” will preface searching questions
You just have to start, the questions will flow soon after and answers will begin to emerge. (If you have any problems with this I will be delighted to help)
Understanding the value of great questions enhances the experience.
Questions that will give true meaning to your Life, that is.
These types of questions will add value to you. You will have ‘problems’ along the way however remember that without problems, questions would not be necessary…it’s part of the equation. Some answers will come immediately, a breakthrough hallelujah … others will take a little time.
What questions have you been asking of yourself lately?….OR
Do you have questions that you should be asking?
Please share in the comments below.
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Life is a Journey.
Mid Life is an Adventure.
I’ve said that before and I am proud to say it again.
Join me now for an intimate Mid Life Love fest, just you & me. The adventure is about to begin. I want you to design the best Mid Life that you can imagine.
You deserve it. This is a golden time. Make it count.
Make it last (there’s no end date if you’re having Fun).
Here are a few ‘design ideas’ that you may wish to experiment with to make your Mid Life years stand out.
“I have worldly experience to use & to share & to contribute”…..well, what can I design from this? What are my experiences, how can I best use them? I really dohave something to offer…my best years are ahead
“The questions that have bothered me before are now bringing answers, magically it seems”…..how much more can I learn from further questioning? I can shape my experiences…..and therefore, my Life.
“I am developing Greater self awareness…….I have become more aware of who I really am”…..Imagine the potential that I can now release and make use of. I am Me & proud of it. This is My Life to live.
“My passion for Life has become more “real”…….I can now taste it, embrace it & touch it”…..the boundaries are being pushed out further & further, my scope is endless. Let me loose, the power is in my hands.
“I fit in to my own view of the world”…..the world is my oyster, let’s go harvest a Fun time
“Fitness & good health are now top priorities & I can see, feel & enjoy the benefits”…..the Life that I will now be living won’t be interrupted by poor health, the possibilities are endless. I can design anything that I want.
“I answer to no one other than myself”…..I make my own ‘design’ rules. I am going to design myself something incredible.
“I enjoy my mistakes. Previously I just saw them as ‘mistakes’…….now I know better”…..OK, sometimes I stuff up, maybe a ‘design fault’ here & there. But that’s allright, I’m still learning & that’s part of my journey.
“My Imagination has no limits, it often runs wild…….I love it”…..my designs are endless, I can do what I want.
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Being a Life Coach or as I prefer to be known, Life Solutions Specialist (because that’s what I provide), I speak with many who find themselves stuck on something. Not unusual.
But hey, here’s the thing. I have found people will beat themselves up either trying to find a way forward by themselves & often be frustrated by failing to do so Or….. give up completely, then be down on themselves for being a ‘failure’.
Yet….when we talk about this together, the ‘answer’ usually becomes blindingly obvious.
So being down on yourself, frustrated by not being able to ‘solve your problem’ is completely unnecessary….we have all been there.
Sharing your ‘problem’ does have it’s benefits.
The lesson: Don’t be an island…..ask for help
Be good to yourselves
David
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Hi there fellow Life Lovers. My creative mind has stepped in here so look out!
A different perspective for this post…….you get to do the writing.
I’d love to hear from each of you, one(1) question that you feel is a great means of self discovery….. a question that rocks your socks, so to speak and opens up possibities for you to explore your own personal growth.
Are you up for it? Yes?…….c’mon, let’s go, I and the blogging Universe will be eternally grateful to you…..and so will your readers.
I will start off.…..”If Richard Branson can do it, what isreally stopping me from imagining greater achievements, without any limitations?”
You can probably do better than that. Now it’s your turn to shine, show us your brightness in the comments section below…..
Note….Please leave link to your blog/site with your “question”, so that you receive due recognition from the blogging and wider Universe. With thanks.
Be good to yourselves
David
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Do you love getting out of bed each day, eager to embrace what lies before you?
OR …Are things just not happening for you?
Then consider this…..become your very own Guru
Go to yourself for the answers to your problems…….a bit radical?…….not at all, please read on
Think about it. We have most of our answers, we really do. In most cases we “know” what to do…….however, we end up running in circles, procrastinating or just plain giving up……..because, we don’t know what to do with what we “know”, by application or …..we don’t know how to unlock our knowing(we get stuck)…..
a lot of this is to do with our mindset…..
Seek out the Guru inside of you. Push aside any laziness,any procrastination and see yourself in a new light, a new framework, a new mindset…….stand tall, become your own Guru.
When you are feeling down……..summon your Guru
When you are feeling unloved…..summon your Guru
When you are feeling lost…….summon your Guru
Now this is not intended as some sort of spiritual pilgrimage to a mountain top. My intent here is for you to alter your mindset to one of accepting that you are you and that you do have so much inner strength & knowledge to tap into. Then allow this “source of knowing” to come out.
Ask(via meditation, prayer, silence, reflection or whatever suits you best) that the answers come to you…..easily. Allowing yourself to be in an accepting state will help unlock much of your hidden answers.
Don’t be afraid to ask…..if the answers or direction to find the answers don’t come, please do not worry…….it may take a little while, be patient with yourself. If you really get stuck, then there’s always a helping hand available, try here
When we get lost for answers we often look to the ‘outside’ for guidance. Self help books, tapes, seminars, social media etc,
Adopting a Guru mindset can set you on a path to locating the answers that are right for you. The answers that you are seeking may come from within or you will be directed to the correct “source”. Start loving your Life more, give it a try…….what do you think?…..let us all know in the comments below.
Be good to yourselves
David
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If there must be “rules” then I have found this to be the best one to use during my mid life years, please read on & discover what it is…….
I love my “mid life ” years and have written a few posts on this topic. Links to some of these are at the foot of this post if you would like to view/bookmark at your leisure. I have also included this video on some further thoughts of mine regarding this post, hopefully you enjoy…..
When I entered my mid life, I scarcely gave it a thought. Then things started to happen, strange things. I began to question what I was doing, work wise firstly. I began to think about Life more broadly. Maybe my thinking was too narrow to start with. Does this sound familiar?
I had a happy family environment and mostly everything was going along swimmingly…..Life was pretty much “a beach”. However something kept nagging at me…….maybe at you as well?
Your mid life years are to be treasured. They may take some getting used to if “hitting 40″ is a big deal to you but it shouldn’t be. I’m not a great one about worrying about the calendar of Life, they are just numbers after all. However, if reaching 40 does impact upon you and give you a “shakeup” then that’s a good thing, isn’t it?
It’s how you ‘feel’ that matters( not the numbers) And it’s this “feeling” that grows as you move through your mid life years (I won’t use terms such as “getting older” or “aging”). I can’t quite put my finger on it, I guess it differs for all of us however my “feeling” has been one of wanting to achieve more and that I have untapped capabilities. I also feel fit, healthy and virtually indestructible. So this ‘feeling’ about yourself, your attitude toward yourself & Life will always play a large part in how your Life works out.
Be prepared for more learning…..So, how do I learn?
and this leads me to the No1 thing that I am always coming back to…….
The One Golden Rule and I am not a fan of “rules” however this is a good one to have. Asking Questions, it get you places, it opens doors and is the gateway to further learning & opportunities. I’ll qualify this….. asking yourself questions gets you places…..& then if you run out of questions, go ask ‘the right people’ to get you even further.
This I believe is so important to understand in our mid life, because our questions change. They are different from our earlier years. So we need to up our skills at questioning or maybe we have lost the art of asking the right questions?….. something to consider?
We may have gotten used to accepting how things areand how we think that they are likely to pan out.
Accepting ‘what is’ and ‘what is likely’ is being less ofwhat you can be
You can continue that way and float through Life or you can exercise your ‘power’ by asking. I see the ‘asking’ as rather like a personal challenge. If I can overcome this challenge, then I am better for it.
So, if you want to thrive in your mid life years, just ask yourself “How can I make this better and even more enjoyable?” …….that question may open the floodgates, keep asking, keep refining your questions and the answers will also get better.
There’s a few questions in the links below that may get your thoughts percolating, if they aren’t already.
Now, who’s up for a question or two?
be good to yourselves
David
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