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Living Life Today – a clearer perspective

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“The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow“….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.

I recently had a moment of extreme clarity. The funny thing about it was that it came at 4 a.m . I was woken by the rain then bang! it hit me. Crystal clear thoughts…..a breakthrough. Something that I had been working on/thinking about for, I don’t know, seems like eons.

And then it was “there”. And then it snowballed. Further pieces of clarity came cascading thru. I wrote them down. Random scribbles of thoughts that were coming to me.

Later in the morning I returned to my scribbling and pieced it all together.

And now I can move forward again…..with a clearer perspective.

Moral of this story…..don’t force, simply allow.

We chase answers. We try to force outcomes.

Often the answers (or fresh questions which lead to the answers) come at a time not of our choosing.

Never give up. If you plant the seed then growth will occur.

be good to yourselves

David

Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.

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Living Life Today – A day to dream, a day to renew

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“The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow“….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.

Dreaming is a natural part of your Life. Dreaming while we sleep and “day dreaming” are the two most common of course. However, today I am talking about dreaming with intent.

A great use of this type of dreaming is when your Life becomes stale. It does for all of us at some point & this is where renewal is essential. So something has to change. “What can I do differently?” “How will I change this?” are examples of questions that will likely begin to flood your mind.Dream3

Before you can renew your Life, you need to be willing to do so. Once you have chosen this path, I suggest you start by dreaming how you would like to see your Life. This is not just imagining, this is more vivid, more intentional.

Dream how you want your Life to be next week, next month, in 12 months. “See” the results. Feel them. Commit these mental pictures to your memory banks. Touch your new Life.

Write down the “results” of your pictures, your feelings. This will help re inforce your dreaming. Start a journal. Keep a record of your dream steps as you gradually renew your Life in alignment with your ‘perfect dream’.

Remember, this is intentional dreaming. You are simply stepping out in accordance with how you want your Life to be…..and that’s a pretty good way to step in Life, don’t you agree?

be good to yourselves

David

Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.

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Mid Lifer’s Lament…7 questions to turn this around

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You are entering your Mid Life years and begin to wonder where your Life has gone. You may have many regrets. More importantly, you are having difficulty seeing a way forward. You have vague dreams of a future that should be better than what you have now.MidLife3

“How do I start to get my Life in better shape?”

Try these questions and see if they will give you a framework on which to build a Life to be proud of…… Be honest, take the time to absorb each question before moving on to the next.

Am I prepared to do what it takes?…..Well, are you? To move forward, changes will need to be made.

Will doing this now make the difference?…..The short answer is “yes”. One more day of regret is one day too much. There may be too much to lose by procrastinating over any change that you need to make. If you are unsure of the change needed, contact someone who can help you.

Do I Love my Life?…..Remember when life was fun? You may need to fall in love with your Life all over again. Do this and the sparks will begin to fly… new, exciting thoughts and actions will follow.

What will happen if I do nothing?…..more lamenting no doubt. Is this what you really want? Doing nothing means things stay the way that they currently are.

How can I make this better?…..by changing what you are doing currently. If your future seems cloudy, change is essential in order to make it clearer. Again, seek help if you can’t find the answers yourself. It’s often difficult doing this on your own.

What will my children think?…..Indeed. Setting a better example will be rewarding in time. Get passionate about your Life and the rewards will be unimaginable.

Can I still be successful?…..Absolutely you can. You are entering a golden period of MidLife12Life. Many successful people didn’t get started until their forties…you can too.

Are these questions helpful? What other questions do you feel would assist?

Feel free to share your thoughts.

Be good to yourselves

David

Life Coach. Listener. Life Lover.

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Living Life Today – What’s on Your list?

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“The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow“….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.

I know we all (generally) love “To do Lists”. There’s always stuff to do and it has to be written down so we remember to do it. Stuff that is.

But what about “Life”?

Do you have a ‘Life to do List’ or should I say a ‘Life Must Do List’?

I’m not talking about Bucket Lists. I’m talking about Now Must Do lists. And the “Now” I am talking about is today and every day.

Maybe because my Calendar of Life is well past June, that I think about this more. However I feel that it is certainly worth thinking about.

This is my ‘must do’ mantra for daily Living.

  • I won’t be immersed in unnecessary detail
  • is my Big Picture still vivid?
  • put it out there…Now, not tomorrow
  • Allow in generous thoughts and all that I deserve at this moment
  • I accept Positivity only…I ignore everything else
  • Does it feed my excitement?…ignore if it doesn’t

Now yours will no doubt be different OR do you have one? Thinking about the really important things in our Lives is…really important. This is Life as it is Now. Sure there are other things to do, other priorities. We all have them.

However, your main priority is to yourself. Do what enriches you. Tomorrow is to be looked forward to however, it is tomorrow. And there is no guarantee of how many “tomorrows” are available to us.

Today is your canvas. Paint it as if it was your last.

Any thoughts? I would love you to share.

Be good to yourselves

David

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Anger and Frustration – part of our natural state? One “Big” way to use it to your advantage

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I’ve had some frustrating times recently. And some anger has bubbled up to the surface.Great Barrier Reef - it doesn't get much bigger than this

I am not usually in this state or at least have not been for some considerable time.

So not only was I frustrated, at the same time I was rather confused.

What do I do with this anger/frustration? I have pondered this for a couple of days now.

I know the ‘triggers’ for this however they are not normally things that would get to me. Perhaps I am expecting too much of others or of myself? This is something that I will have to work out for myself.

I have come to the conclusion that being angry and/or frustrated is natural. No big surprise there. However trying to suppress this or divert this can lead to increased anger/frustration.

Letting it ‘run it’s course’, letting things cool is I believe, a better way to go. I think venting some steam has its benefits. Clears out the system. Pent up anger or frustration may have catastrophic results, so best to let a bit out to avoid any disasters.

Being frustrated at something/someone is not bad either. If you have values or yardsticks that you want to uphold and you find that someone is coming up short…be frustrated…at least for a little while.

And here is a key. “A little while”. I have just said that being angry and/or frustrated is OK, in fact somewhat “healthy”, however there is a limit.

How have I turned this around?

Any ongoing anger/frustration will become unhealthy in my view. Let off some steam, privately. Source the anger… and then source a healthy alternative to this anger/frustration.

In my case, I replaced my frustration with a ‘bigger picture’. Previously, I was isolating & focusing on the small distractions and therefore making them big distractions.

This lead to increased frustration & flowed onto anger. Reframing this into the bigger scheme of things…..that is, what really matters to me on a larger scale …..watered down the frustration. I saw it for what it was…a minor irritation NOT a major drama.

The bigger picture of my Life has enjoyment, dreams and Big goals beckoning me to achieve. Playing this game of Life won’t be halted by a “scratch on the kneecap”. You put up with the minor irritations. In fact, you hardly notice them at all when your end game is so compelling.

How do you overcome your angry or frustrating times? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Be good to yourselves

David

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Why clearing your clutter will save your Life

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What types of things do you tolerate in your life?

Are they excuses, disappointments, frustrations, put downs, same old same old, anger, doubt, negative people, lack of…..?

It doesn’t have to be this way!

We all experience these at various points in our Life. However there is no reason to tolerate them and accept them as ‘normal’. Do so and they will become an immovable part of your Life, just like a long term squatter…..and that is bad.

When you let this type of clutter invade and be a large part of your Life, then your Life no longer becomes yours.

You become a victim of external circumstances which will take control over your Life.

Are these ‘missing’ in your day to day living?…Fun, surprise, joy, success, spontaneity, achievement, excitement, money, love, friendship, positivity, imagination, goals.

Clear the clutter of disappointment, excuses, frustration, negativity and the like… it’s time for a fresh start! And introduce the ‘missing’ activities to your daily living.

You only have one life to live and from today you are your No.1 priority. Because if you are not “in tune”, then the people nearest and dearest to you can not prosper either.

Your health and wellbeing are paramount.

When you are ‘cluttered’, you are in effect…damaged goods.

By ‘clearing the clutter’ I am talking about mental and physical – get rid of the physical things around you that no longer serve any worthwhile purpose. Clear your desk, your home, garage, yard. Set a clean slate and start afresh.

Take time to clear your mind of unwanted/ negative thoughts that are holding you back/ stopping you from being the person the great creator intended. Let go of the toxic people in your Life. Short term ‘friends’ can become life long enemies to your personal wellbeing.

I suggest that you let go of what you have been unnecessarily putting up & keeping in your Life. Aim for a fresh start now – renew, revitalise, re-ignite….. and you can then start living the life you deserve instead of having your Life suffocated by others and “stuff” that serves no value to you.

Be good to yourselves

David

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4 of the best “Imagination” quotes from the Highlight reel

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I Love using my Imagination. A phrase that I enjoy sharing with regards to getting the best out of your imagination is… “ imagine when rather than imagining if”. This brings it into the realms of reality rather than just wishful thinking.

Here’s a selection from four of the posts that I have previously written on the topic of Imagination.

1. Imagine, when you wake up one morning and there is the noise of laughter and singing echoing outside. You peer out of your window……

Your neighbourhood is absolutely full of people dancing & singing, dogs wagging their tails, cats purring and birds chirping…….and of course, the sun is shining brightly……..what a sight to behold!

You go outside to investigate the “fuss”. You ask a spritely looking elderly gentleman doing a jig, “what’s going on?” and he replies……

“Damn if I know, I justed started imagining a better place and found myself here”

you ask another and get the same reply and another, same reply and so on…….

Just Imagine if the whole world started imagining like this………

2. One of the beauties of Imagination is that there are no “rules” to abide by. There are no boundaries, limits, barriers, roadblocks, speed humps or obstacles…..or excuses.

Now in our “real world” that would likely be seen as unfair….. you know, you gotta play by the “Rules”.

Does Imagination care about that?

No.

Don’t play fair when you can Imagine.

3. What’s the difference between Imagination and Procrastination?

Imagination will get you out of bed in the morning, excited to live another day, while…..

‘Procrastination’ will have you thinking…..”heck, my day can wait, where’s the snooze button?”

Imagination dwells inside each of us. Ever waiting to be released from it’s dormancy, often in a burst of mind numbing spontaneity.

Shed light on your imagination, often.

4. A major key to effect vivid imagining is to -  “Imagine when.…. not imagine “if“

Imagining “when” something happens is embracing what I call, the “substance” of imagination. It is bringing your imagined (previously locked up, never to be released) thoughts into the open where they can blossom into your reality.

“To imagine just once, kindles the glow……to imagine often, lights up the entire world.”

Well, there you have it.

Is your Imagination bottled up or do you let it loose and imagine much, much more?

be good to yourselves

David

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What are your Theories on Life? Here’s One …but it’s gone up in a puff of smoke

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There are numerous theories  recorded throughout history. We learned about many of them during our schooling.

Then we have our own theories about this and that. Many of these relate to how we navigate our way through Life..….and then there are conspiracy theories…..well, we’ll leave that one alone.

With our own lives, we gather information from varying sources e.g, our parents, our peers, self help books, media, friends and our daily observations. We then tend to “theorise” how things work you know…….. life in general, the Universe, right & wrong, how to become successful & wealthy etc,

A friend of mine, Trevor used to have a great theory. If he worked hard, got noticed by the Boss, worked overtime, didn’t take most of his holidays then he would be promoted.  His employers would look after him. “They like people who put in that extra effort” said Trevor.

He reasoned(theorised) that he would also get numerous pay rises due to his

extra diligence, be able to look after his loving wife and children and retire with a nice sum of money………good theory.

For a few years, things were going quite well for Trevor at work, his “theory” was working…….at home it was becoming different. Family life suffered because of Trevor’s “extra diligence” at work, they rarely saw him,……..theory now looking a little shaky.

A few months later, ‘the deal breaker’, Trevor was retrenched…….theory now shot to pieces – BANG.

Trevor now theorises “that life sucks”.

From Trevor’s perspective, life is looking perilous on two fronts 1. lack of employment therefore lack of promotion therefore lack of pay (rise)…….retiring with a nice sum of money looks unlikely.

2. Trevor needs to patch up his family life

What would you do in Trevor’s situation?…. Continue to lament that “life sucks”? OR create a new “theory”?……a paradigm shift if you will.

You see, Trevor relied largely on his main theory outlined in this post. So when it went ‘Bang’………..he was lost, he had no back up plan… “Life sucked”.

I guess we can over theorise on Life. Keeping it simple & varied has it’s benefits. Balancing work with family, terribly important.

We get a few ‘bumps’ or ‘bangs’ in our Lives that  should cause us to think about our “theories” on Life. Take a look at your Life from a different angle, a fresh perspective. Because it can be “over” in a flash.

What really matters.? It’s an individual thing however it’s worth considering very carefully. You only have one shot at this Life so why not make it a great one.

Can you relate to Trevor’s story? Does life “suck” for you… or have you turned it around?

be good to yourselves

David

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Living Life Today – how “old” are your thoughts?…are they as old as you?

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“The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow“….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.

As we get older, it seems that many of our thoughts age at the same rate. At least that’s my observation of others, from my years on this planet.

Many simply accept that they must think in a certain way “because that’s the way that it is”…..”that’s the way we are supposed to think (because we are older)”. They carry the same thoughts that they carried in their earlier years…they cling on to them. My goodness, it’s hard to let go.

Here’s some different thinking…..

Young thoughts lead to ongoing enthusiasm & age-long vitality. Young thoughts are fresh…..and that’s the key here. I am using the term “young”. My point here is freshness.

Stale thoughts, old thoughts, worn out thoughts, out of date thoughts…..these don’t serve you. Using these types of thoughts will have you in the same old, same old vacuum.

Fresh, young thoughts will give you the opportunity to explore outside your current limits. Fresh thinking seeks out opportunities that aren’t available to ‘stale’ thinkers. The opportunities to achieve much more than you may be achieving right now.

If this is you then Freshen up, for your own sake. You are getting older, however you have the choice to keep your thoughts “young” & vibrant.

be good to yourselves

David

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Momentum & Clarity…what it means in the Bigger picture of Life

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Some start fast, some start slow & steady. Full of ideas and enthusiasm. Energy bursting out everywhere or being slowly released in focus-like fashion.

From either angle there comes a tipping point where the energy, enthusiasm, action needs to be maintained. Maintained in such a way that it simply rolls along with barely a blip or hindrance…..giving you Momentum.

I have found that a basic fundamental from which to build Momentum is a strong base. An anchor point.

When you can anchor yourself in certainty, you can then begin your move forward.

That anchor can be a number of things. For example… It may be confidence in your ability. It may be drawing on a previous success or successes. It may be financial. It may be support from your network, family or friends. It may be a key word or phrase…whatever it is that will trigger you into action and have you stay there.

Not only can you now move forward, you can also draw back on this anchor, if times become a bit tough down the track. Let me explain what I mean.

Mostly our intentions are good. We have our goal/s set, we are enthused. We set out to achieve. Along the way our focus may be distracted thru any number of issues. Some of these we cannot avoid, some we can. In all likelihood we become a little overwhelmed and frustrated by our lack of progress.

Now we need to deal with these distractions so we can get back on track. And getting back on track is what you need to do. Your momentum has been disrupted. This is where we can reach for our anchor point if you find it difficult to get going again. Remember, your anchor point is good not evil. It’s a point of confidence which enables you to get rolling again.

When I talk about distractions your momentum becomes disrupted as I said earlier. There may be a 2nd culprit at play here. As I said, some distractions can’t be avoided. Deal with them & get back on the horse. However if you are lacking in clarity then all the good work you have done will grind to a halt at some point regardless of what other (good) measures you have in place.

It’s fine to be enthused and start taking action on the goals you have set. If you haven’t got a clear purpose or bigger picture on what these goals mean to you then your enthusiasm will likely fizzle out.

And being clear is largely driven by… Meaning. This in my opinion is the single biggest contributor to successful achievement of goals. There’s meaning to it. Sufficient meaning to drive us forward. Lack of sufficient meaning has us asking questions of ourselves …questions of doubt.

So when you set out on your goals, check the “meaning barometer” firstly. Will the goal/s add value to you/to others? Is it strong enough to make you do everything to see it thru? Then make sure that your ‘base’ is firm…you have your anchor/s in place.

If it passes this test then you are off to a terrific start which should then progress to a successful achievement.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

be good to yourselves

David

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