Never give in – a musical interlude

You are only ever ‘beat’ when you give in, give up.

Stand up for what you believe…and be strong about it.

Life’s like that.

If you don’t believe strongly enough then you are at the mercy of others’ beliefs…much like a puppet on a string.

A piece of old Aussie rock goes perfectly with this theme…..

Be good to yourselves

David

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Feel like you are out of your Depth?…..A Simple way to get level with a 3 step formula

Hello fellow Life Lovers. There are times for all of us when we feel ”out of our depth”…..unchartered waters so to speak…whether it’s caused by…

Fear of the unknown OR fear of the known (results of doing/not doing) & our current circumstances.

Being in ‘deep water’ will manifest all types of fears…..and excuses. Quickly, these get out of control. It is likely that you are imagining all sorts of dire consequences.

“Imagining”, now there’s a key word.

If you have followed me (and I am really grateful that you have) the past few months, you will be aware of my many thoughts on Imagination…..here’s an example

Instead of ‘imagining all sorts of dire consequences’…try imagining a better picture/a better scenario…..A Simple Way of doing this…

The Three (3) steps

Imagine yourself ‘in your new picture’…Transport yourself via vibrant, fresh thoughts to the place or situation where you want to be…..this is so powerful

Reinforce ‘your picture’…see it clearly , breathe it deeply, touch it lovingly. This may seem simplistic however you must be able to see yourself as you imagine…you are ‘there’ doing all the things that you imagined. It must become a part of you, your thinking, your future.

Believe in ‘your picture’…a ‘no brainer’ really if you’ve mastered steps 1 & 2 however Belief is a very deep thing (I seem to have a fixation with depth today). Belief goes further than ‘re inforcement’ in my opinion. You are attaching your soul to your picture.

It doesn’t get much deeper than that.

Does that seem simple enough?

Be good to yourselves

David

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The 5 Deadly Sins…..How to turn them around

There are things that you need to do and there are things that you should avoid. When speaking with my coaching clients and potential clients, there are 5 ‘problem areas’ that consistently occur and inevitably hold them back from achieving so much more (or indeed, achieving anything)…

Procrastination…..an absolute art form. Why do something when you can put it off “for a better time”…..enough said

Excuses….. there’s got to be some reason not to do this, right?

Lack of Belief…..well I have never done this before, so I guess I probably won’t be able to do this now

No Game Plan/Goals/Vision…..what?

No Direction…..I don’t know where I am actually going, we’ll just see what happens…ok?

You probably get the picture. There’s no time like NOW to repent your “sins” and get the train back on the tracks otherwise it will be ‘trainwreck’ time.

I’m not a great one for rules or regulations however there are certain ‘unwritten’ standards that are worth adhering to. Turn the 5 ‘sins’ above right around and you are very likely to start kicking some goals.

Don’t Procrastinate…..just ‘do’ or wipe it completely…you will feel better either way

No Excuses….. you might want to check this out…always be aware of the subtle ones

Start Believing…..in yourself. Start with some small victories, then build. If you don’t believe in yourself then it’s extremely hard for others to do so…it starts with you

Set some Goals…..as in above, set some small ones to get used to achievement then build…and add some ‘bite’ & ‘meaning’ to them. Create a Vision of how you see your Life in 10, 20 years and start aiming…this will build some purpose.

A sense of Direction…..certainly handy to have. Add some detours for fun but create a journey of excitement. No doubt unexpected detours will occur however they may open up further possibilities…enjoy & take some control of your Life.

Make sense?

Be good to yourselves

David

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Living Life Today – Getting through the ‘dark’ days

“The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow”….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.

Sorry about the sombreness of today’s post however some days are just tough. Getting through them can be gut wrenching, confusing…..and no fun at all……and I love Fun!

But Today is one of “those” days. I have some important decisions to make, I have to do what I have to do regardless of how I feel about these situations.

When you get down on yourself and you do, you need to pick yourself up. So I thought I would share this if/when others have similar ‘tough’ days.

So, how does one prepare for battle?

Regardless of what is going on, you have the ability to fight. You may have to dig deep, however inside of you is the resilience to see through this & look forward to another day. I believe that you must have a deep self belief that you are making the correct decisions and faith that brighter days are ahead…..and you do have a powerful ally, the power of Choice.

I choose to have brighter days ahead….. I can feel it already!

Be good to yourselves

David

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Living Life Today – Excuse me…..your Life is waiting

“The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow”….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.

Do you feel that you are regularly ‘on hold’? Want to get something done however distractions get in the way?

You know how you feel when you make a call and you are placed on hold……it seems indefinitely at times, very frustrating.

So why is it that we often put our Lives on hold?…..Excuse me, Your Life is calling…….do you put your Life on hold if you are doing busy, unimportant stuff?

…..because this puts you out of the Game(of Life)……and aren’t you frustrated by that?

Now Excuses, we all have them, in various guises….. but at what cost?…….your Life?

We will often get caught on the merry-go-round of Life…..excuse this, excuse that, can’t get off, going nowhere…..except around in circles. Much like having your Life on hold.

Getting off “hold” and into the rhythm of Life requires action, by way of choice then  if necessary, followed by further massive action, when you have been ‘on hold’ so long that you have become stagnant……now that’s a poor place to be.

You have one shot at this Life. It makes sense to pay attention & be aware at all times and….. get on with living it, it’s yours to enjoy.

Be aware of your thoughts, be aware of your actions, be aware of your choices. Use them wisely and….. Live.

Put the excuses on hold, not your Life and live without distraction(as much as you can). Live with vitality, live with Belief, unshakeable Belief that what you really want/want to enjoy will ‘materialise’.

Be good to yourselves

David

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The Imagination series (Episode 7…final curtain call)

Well, this is the finale in my series of short, thought provoking posts on Imagination. Imagination will live on in my other blog postings however I didn’t want to overstay my welcome with this.

How can I “finish” this off, I wonder?

It’s gotta be Big, Huge even, different?…..Hmmmm

Imagine, when you wake up one morning and there is the noise of laughter and singing echoing outside. You peer out of your window……

Your neighbourhood is absolutely full of people dancing & singing, dogs wagging their tails, cats purring and birds chirping…….and of course, the sun is shining brightly……..what a sight to behold!

You go outside to investigate the “fuss”. You ask a spritely looking elderly gentleman doing a jig, “what’s going on?” and he replies……

“Damn if I know, I justed started imagining a better place and found myself here”

you ask another and get the same reply and another, same reply and so on…….

Just Imagine if the whole world started imagining like this………

be good to yourselves, see you at “Living Life Today”…….

David

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C’mon, Express Yourself…..

Too often I see people existing in a Life that seems to lack real ‘punch’ or ‘pizzazz’, just generally lacks ……there’s something not right.

They appear as only a shadow or shell of what they truly can be. They are living a shallow Life, there is no depth to their being.

That’s sad.

But this blog is not about “sadness”, so let’s get the party started!

You know, I believe that for many, there is the real person hiding away in there somewhere just waiting for an invitation to join the party (of Life).

I say express Yourself!.….show the world who you really are, don’t hide in the shadows and better still, you don’t need an invitation to join the party…..just c’mon in.

Self expression is achievable with a healthy dose of Self Belief and Imagination.

What’s stopping you from expressing…..

• your passion for Life…(please be passionate!)

• your dancing moves? (couldn’t help it, it’s an expression party after all)

• your humanity

• your faith

• your personal power

• your love

• your forgiveness

• your creativity

• your style

• your vision

• your skill

• your strength

• your flair, for the Arts…….

• your ability, with sports……….

Use this space to fill with your expression of your Life…………………………………………..

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Fellow Life Lovers, fill in the blank canvas of your Life with the expression of who you are.

The world will be better for it.

be good to yourselves

David

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Imagine…. if only you knew what you had within… An exercise in Self Discovery

Discovery

“Imagination” is an exhilarating word. Just saying it gives me goosebumps.

Using it……. well that opens up everything!

An oft used quote from Albert Einstein…”Imagination is greater than Knowledge”

Living Life to your full potential I believe, is largely an inside game. This is where the ‘knowledge’ part kicks in…….

Knowing what is inside you requires committment to Lifelong learning. It doesn’t take a lifetime to learn that you have enormous ‘personal power’, however there is a lifetime of learning involved understanding and using your personal power to it’s full extent.

Learning to grow necessitates learning to look within and then believing, in your personal power.

The good news…….you already have this ability, this potential, this well of opportunity.

Just imagine what your Life could be if only you realised how much you already have inside you.

You are powerful. The power of your thoughts is immense. You determine what you do, how much success you want, how happy you can become, your impact upon others…….Just Imagine, your very own power source……..Just

• Imagine the type of Life that I will lead

• Imagine the friends that I will have

• Imagine the “mountains” that I will climb

• Imagine the exotic places that I will visit

• Imagine the impact that I will have on others

• Imagine the “wealth” that I will accumulate

• Imagine how many Facebook friends I will have

• Imagine my Happiness

• Imagine the Love that I will give and receive

All of this can come from the inside, your personal power…….Just Imagine

Why does this power source burn brighter for some more than for others?

There are Life’s adventurers, risk takers, cult heroes, Leaders, Entrepreneurs who have dared. They have dared to imagine. They have dared to Believe. They have dared to look within.

There are also seemingly ordinary Men & Women all over the globe who have also dared. They have looked within & dared to believe that they can do it…….whatever “it” they chose to do.

So why can’t you?

What’s stopping you from looking within?…….from believing in yourself?

Just Imagine if you did.

be good to yourselves

David

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What’s your excuse (for not living your Prime Time)?

A friend of mine was very comfortable with the way things had been, until recently. He was overlooked for a promotion, the organisation was looking for someone with a different attitude. “I am now in my 40′s, (the beginning of prime time), I’ve done the hard yards, I think I’ll just ‘coast’ to the finishing line”…….What!?

You have an amazing opportunity at Life right now & for many years to come. Don’t give up, things/circumstances do change, I say… ” That’s the problem, I don’t like change. I’m fine with how things are now”, says my friend.

Is this how you react when things don’t go the way that you would like or don’t stay the same? 

Do you have a “reflex” action … a fail safe, a one size fits all type of response?………

In other words, an Excuse.

No matter what stage of Life you are in, excuses should not be allowed into your Life.

Excusing yourself from living Life to your full potential can have dire consequences.

However you can recover your situation by just letting go of your excuses.

Do these sound familiar?

What’s your excuse for;

• not setting goals to  ‘set up your Life’
• ignoring your life long learning discipline
• giving up when the going gets a bit tough
• procrastinating rather than deciding
• not looking after your health
• not smiling more
• being a follower rather than a leader
• ‘sitting on the sidelines’ instead of taking action
• not embracing each & every day with a “helloooo world”
• not taking responsibility
• Blaming others for your issues
• not saying ‘thank you’…..for what you have
• being platonic rather than loving
• being negative instead of positive

Excuses come in many forms however they often start with our thinking(or lack thereof) via our (lack of suitable) Belief Systems. Some may be expressed verbally as follows ;

Commonly -  “it’s too hard” , “I can’t do that”, I don’t have the skills”. “I am not lucky”, “I am too busy…”, “it’s someone else’s problem”, “I couldn’t be bothered”………I think you get the picture.

Many of our Beliefs may be tired, worn out or simply don’t suit current events -  if your beliefs do not serve you then change them! OR at the very least, review them. The points that I raised above are just a sample of the many ‘life excuses’ that exist…..you know the ones! These excuses serve as warning bulletins that our Belief systems are in need of a shakeup and/or we need to get our thought processes in order.

Is there really any valid excuse for not being able to ‘deliver’ on these points? i.e turn them around.  What is really stopping you?… It’s your Life & you have the power to live a great Life, not one full of excuses.

Be a friend to yourself, don’t throw your primetime away.   n.b ‘Primetime’ can be any stage of Life, I’ve used the mid life years as an example(a very good one).

Get moving, get rid of the excuses, take ownership & responsibility for your life & be a better person to those around you & most importantly, to yourself.

Be good to yourselves

David

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More Self Discovery Questions for Mid Life “Newbies”

About to enter “mid life” eh? Wondering what to expect? You may be a little fearful that a good portion of your Life has gone.

Don’t worry! The best part is about to start.

A little while back, I posted 21 Self Discovery Questions to enrich your Mid Life Journey. 

This post is still receiving views which is very heart warming. Therefore I thought a follow up might be in order. And just for variety, I’ll throw in some of my homegrown “guide points/feedback” for good measure.

I’ve said this before & I’ll say it again…….”mid life is golden”

You have done the hard yards. You may wish to build upon your hard work in your existing area of Life and/or work or… You may not… Choice is an amazing tool at our disposal.

• Are you now asking yourself….”is this the way I want to live the rest of my Life?”

Well I am not hear to tell you to pack it all in & venture into the unknown totally unprepared. No, what I am saying is reaching the mid life years can elicit ”a change in thinking” in some. If you are perfectly happy doing what you do then do more of it.

If not & you want to do some venturing, start asking yourself some questions before you step out  the door, like…..

• “What makes my heart sing”…….”What will make my family proud of me” …….”What will make Me proud of me…….”How will I feel knowing that I didn’t give my best shot….that I didn’t take a risk”…….”what is the worst that can happen”…….”how far outside my comfort sphere am I prepared to step”…….”am I the person I want to be” or “who do I want to be”

We are complex beings. There is a lot going on inside of us. And there is a lot more inside of us that we do not allow out. Untapped potential is what I am alluding to here.

This untapped potential can remain dormant for a Lifetime…….what a waste.

Now more than ever, is your opportunity ( there will be a lot of opportunities during mid life) to start tapping. Not your toes, start tapping in to your potential – you have a lot of this inside of you. Discovering your hidden reserves is a great start to living the rest of your Life with unlimited possibilities and endless horizons.

Time for some more questions that you may wish to consider,

• “How do I live my dream or ‘best’ Life”…….”How will I know what is the best path to follow”…….”Why am I afraid of what may lie ahead of me”…….”Who will save me if I fall”…..”how will I adapt to the changes that I want to make”

and time for some more homegrown guidance & feedback;

I discovered some pretty cool things after I turned 40. Turning 50 opened up more revelations. Learning more about myself & the endless learnings that can be explored were just two…….and they are a pretty important two. Continuing to learn will ensure that you continue to grow as a person. This forms the base, the solid foundation for the rest of your Mid Life Adventure. And learning (greater) Self Belief will go a long way to helping you answer the questions I just posed above (together with tapping in to your reserves of potential).… Don’t be afraid to fall, I know that it is scary……..

Just have the faith & belief in yourself that you will get up……. and you will. Therein lies your power. Your power to engage with & prosper from your “mid Life” years.

A couple more questions to finish,

• ”what will be the deal breaker that will get me over the hump & get me to the line”
• “what’s my end game, what do I really want, who do I want to become”

At the end of the day, the questions that I have shared can only be answered by you. However to gain the most from Life, questions are a great way to achieve this. If you need a little help kickstarting your answers, I am available to help.

The better the question, the greater the gain.

Can I leave you with this……. ‘Don’t just accept what is…consider what if ‘.…consider & open up all possibilities and have the Belief that you can do it.

be good to yourselves

David

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