Hello fellow Life Lovers. This came to me in somewhat of a “blinding flash”, so I just had to pour this out & publish it before it escapes my mind.
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I am busily penning my next blog post on Mid Life Game Plans when the dreaded word “old” reared it’s ugly head.
I’m a Mid Lifer and I don’t want to get “old” or have “old thoughts”. I haven’t yet reached my prime, I have so much to do and so much to share.
Peter Pan then popped into my head……..from nowhere. Now Peter Pan is the boy who didn’t grow up, as I recall. I’m grown up however the concept of having Peter Pan thoughts, attitudes and never ending youthfulness strikes me as something of great merit.
We are as young (or as old) as we think & feel.
If you are feeling a bit old at times, try thinking of Peter Pan and add a hop, skip & jump to your day and your Life.
Be good to yourselves
David
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Do you feel that you are regularly ‘on hold’? Want to get something done however distractions get in the way?
You know how you feel when you make a call and you are placed on hold……it seems indefinitely at times, very frustrating.
So why is it that we often put our Lives on hold?…..Excuse me, Your Life is calling…….do you put your Life on hold if you are doing busy, unimportant stuff?
…..because this puts you out of the Game(of Life)……and aren’t you frustrated by that?
Now Excuses, we all have them, in various guises….. but at what cost?…….your Life?
We will often get caught on the merry-go-round of Life…..excuse this, excuse that, can’t get off, going nowhere…..except around in circles. Much like having your Life on hold.
Getting off “hold” and into the rhythm of Life requires action, by way of choice then if necessary, followed by further massive action, when you have been ‘on hold’ so long that you have become stagnant……now that’s a poor place to be.
You have one shot at this Life. It makes sense to pay attention & be aware at all times and….. get on with living it, it’s yours to enjoy.
Be aware of your thoughts, be aware of your actions, be aware of your choices. Use them wisely and….. Live.
Put the excuses on hold, not your Life and live without distraction(as much as you can). Live with vitality, live with Belief, unshakeable Belief that what you really want/want to enjoy will ‘materialise’.
Be good to yourselves
David
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Do you love getting out of bed each day, eager to embrace what lies before you?
OR …Are things just not happening for you?
Then consider this…..become your very own Guru
Go to yourself for the answers to your problems…….a bit radical?…….not at all, please read on
Think about it. We have most of our answers, we really do. In most cases we “know” what to do…….however, we end up running in circles, procrastinating or just plain giving up……..because, we don’t know what to do with what we “know”, by application or …..we don’t know how to unlock our knowing(we get stuck)…..
a lot of this is to do with our mindset…..
Seek out the Guru inside of you. Push aside any laziness,any procrastination and see yourself in a new light, a new framework, a new mindset…….stand tall, become your own Guru.
When you are feeling down……..summon your Guru
When you are feeling unloved…..summon your Guru
When you are feeling lost…….summon your Guru
Now this is not intended as some sort of spiritual pilgrimage to a mountain top. My intent here is for you to alter your mindset to one of accepting that you are you and that you do have so much inner strength & knowledge to tap into. Then allow this “source of knowing” to come out.
Ask(via meditation, prayer, silence, reflection or whatever suits you best) that the answers come to you…..easily. Allowing yourself to be in an accepting state will help unlock much of your hidden answers.
Don’t be afraid to ask…..if the answers or direction to find the answers don’t come, please do not worry…….it may take a little while, be patient with yourself. If you really get stuck, then there’s always a helping hand available, try here
When we get lost for answers we often look to the ‘outside’ for guidance. Self help books, tapes, seminars, social media etc,
Adopting a Guru mindset can set you on a path to locating the answers that are right for you. The answers that you are seeking may come from within or you will be directed to the correct “source”. Start loving your Life more, give it a try…….what do you think?…..let us all know in the comments below.
Be good to yourselves
David
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“The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow”….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.
Settling for more rather than less is a main aim of mine this year…….
Taking a bigger slice of the action, raising my personal performance bar a notch or two, stepping up to the plate, creating a ‘bigger life’.
Yet how many of us(like I have been in the past) are content inside our zone, our bubble, fearful of venturing too far in case we get hurt. We tend to compromise and settle for less.
“Greed” has nasty connotations and in it’s pure form, I agree. However, if you are struggling with getting what you rightly deserve, then it may be time to release the “greed mongrel” in you…..(it’s OK I’m Australian so I can get away with that type of language) and go and get what you really deserve.
But seriously, if you do in most (if not all) cases end up with ‘less’ then don’t you think it’s time for you to settle for more ?
Let us all know your thoughts in the comments below. Please feel free to share this post with your Universe.
Be good to yourselves
David
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Upon reaching the age of 40 & beyond, many will take the time to reflect…..of what has passed and what is to come. You may have a Vision of where your Life is heading OR you may not.
Either way,choiceswill need to be made, direction to be followed or indeed,sought.
Some questions that you may wish to consider to help you on your way…….
Am I happy with the way things are now
Will my current ‘choices’ get me to where I want to be
Do I commit to taking action to achieve what I really want
Are my thoughts helping me
Am I aware of any limiting beliefs that will stand in my way
What is my source of Inspiration…..do I have one (or many)
What three (3) important achievements will define this current year
Do my Values and Beliefs need reviewing…..are they still valid
Am I willing to raise the bar on my performance
Do I settle for less than I deserve
Is my ‘Big Picture’ complete or is it still a work in progress
This is an opportune time to complete your ‘picture’…..sketch it first if you have to and ‘paint’ it in later…..at least make a start.
Do I have support, people who I can rely on
Where do I want to be with my Life in 5 years
In 10 years time when I Iook back at my achievements, or lack of ‘action’, how will I feel
Is there anything stopping me from making progress on my Vision today
How will I feel, when my ” dream” comes alive
The Mid Life years are ones to be treasured. With the right thoughts, actions and dreams/visions one can “extend” their mid life beyond the generally accepted norms…..no time to dwell on ‘old age’ thoughts when you are flourishing in your mid life years…..let’s get to it!
Do you have any Self Discovery questions that you would like to add? If yes, please feel free to use the comments section below….. your contribution will be most appreciated. Please feel free to share this post with your Universe.
Be good to yourselves
David
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“The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow”….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.
“Choice” is a dominant factor in how we live our lives and how our lives pan out. We are always making choices whether we realise it or not.
You will no doubt, have your own reasons for consciously choosing this or choosing that.
The blessing is, that we actually have choice, therefore it goes to reason that we should use it wisely.
However, realising that one can actually make a choice as opposed to merely ‘acceptingwhat is‘, is something entirely different. Our mind can go into autopilot at times, quite often actually, thoughts run rampant, actions become second nature, we run with the pack…..choices are made,unknowingly.
How do you overcome this random choice factory, this production line of automated choices, signed off without your consent?
I suggest, choosing to pause on occasion and become aware of the subconscious choices that you are making could make the world of difference.
Try making this a habit, question these automated ‘choices’…….are they right for you?…do you give them consent or do you choose differently?
What do you think about that?…..I’d love you to share your thoughts below.
Be good to yourselves
David
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“You seem to have the key in the lock however the door will not open?”
…….you are stuck….. and probably confused how this has happened…right?
Let’s go back a few steps.
Once upon a time……. there was a point where things were going very well for you.
Unfortunately “this time” became lost. The big bad wolf in the shape of (fuzzy thoughts, distractions, excuses, poor planning) came into the picture. You see, Mr Wolf has some very poor attributes……for example,
Fear producing
Procrastination building
Focus shattering
mind numbing
self esteem destroying
Getting “stuck” at various times is normal. The trick is to get unstuck as soon as possible…….otherwise ‘the above’ will devour you courtesy of Mr Wolf.
Firstly, we need to go back to the time when things were going well…….take a few moments and re live this time…..
What were you doing then? What was working? What was your attitude? Did you have goals and/or a Game Plan established?…..Yes?…No?…..Let’s review the following key points in order to get unstuck:
*Develop your Game Plan…..know your “moves”. This will allow you to stay in the game and plan your next play without hesitation. Your Game Plan is up to you. It can be as simple or as detailed as you wish. It can be a goal/series of, or a Roadmap. Either way, you have to have one.
*Have an Attitude of Confidence…..this will develop from knowing your game, what your capabilities are and going for the win…..whatever that may be for you…..the more “wins” the greater the confidence
*Bench the “fear”…..it doesn’t deserve to be in your game. More than likely, it is unfounded, it’s certainly unnecessary. There’s a lot of info on Fear out there, however can I suggest you take a look at this from Tess The Bold Life. It may be very helpful.
*Procrastination is a main “sticker” & can manifest in many ways including the fear of succeeding…..(it’s a subtle one), don’t be afraid of success. Succeeding builds self esteem and focus…..see, you can kill two birds with one stone. Procrastination can also evolve from too many inter weaving thoughts…..get clear, review your Game Plan, simplify if necessary.
*Excuses keep us in a state of denial(and they don’t cut it). Excuses keep us treading water…..they keep us stuck in ‘nowheresville’. Choose to eliminate your excuses & free yourself up. It will also keep the wolf from your door.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on getting “unstuck”. The points I covered here are by no means exhaustive though they are probably the most common. Please share your thoughts in the comments below.
“The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow”….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.
One of my themes for 2012 is to make it a “Big” year, so I got to thinking…..what is/are the Big things in your Life?
What are the standouts, your ‘badges of honour’?
What grabs you & gets the blood coursing through your veins?
Ask yourself…..what is so important to me to make it so “Big”, that I must pursue it & never give in until it’s achieved?
What sets me alight and makes such a Huge difference in my Life?
Is it Love …..for what you do and/or for someone special?…..is this Big for you?
Is it family, friends?…..If it is, then Express yourself and play Big with them. In fact, play Big with everbody.
Don’t be small…..be Big! Review what’s important to you, if it’s not Big enough then work on it and make it bigger……or let it go.
What ever it is that’s “Big” for you, pursue it with a passion, nail it down, don’t let it out of your sight.
Please share the “Big” things in your Life or the things that you will make Big, in the comments section below.
be good to yourselves
David
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