When I write, I feel free…when I contribute, I come Alive

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Fellow Life Lovers,

Sometimes, I get the urge to pen down my thoughts. That could be a Blog post, Facebook, Twitter or Linkedin update……it’s now becoming This makes me feel Alive!more often…Why is this?

I have a few core favourites and these are in the main, the way I view Life and my philosophies on how I enjoy helping people with their real Life problems.

I specialise in providing Life Solutions.

It doesn’t make any difference whether that be by way of my blog writing, My Virtual Coach email package or ‘live” conversations with clients/potential clients. It’s the contributing to others, that I enjoy the most (though getting paid runs a pretty close second, let’s be honest)….. See the links below if you would like to contribute to my Pension Fund by signing on as a valued client…I’d love you to.

Now where was I, Oh yeah…..Why is my urge to pen down my thoughts now happening more often?…..a sense of freedom.

Writing for me, is great for my Soul. At times the words simply flow as if my hand is guided. I can get myself into another space, like an alternate universe. And when I write, new, fresh thoughts come to me. So often my challenge is to commence writing and allow the thoughts to come…not vice versa. So when I’m stuck, I begin to write… and allow the thoughts to follow (and the sense of freedom).

I then feel free to explore the far reaches of my mind. Imagination has no rules. (remember my Imagination series?) and when I imagine, it fuels my desire for greater contribution.

That being said, “contributing” is one of Life’s great pleasures… and benefits. If you can add some value to someone else’s Life then I consider that “a job well done”. In turn, you are contributing to your own growth. Life feels good, you feel good…..nothing is a problem, you can bust down walls. Life doesn’t get much better than that.

If we had more contributors, we’d have less problems. I love to help solve people’s Life problems by listening, understanding then contributing with Solutions…..a helping hand if you will.

Who wishes to join me?

Be good to yourselves

David

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Cutting through the Mist

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Hello fellow Life Lovers. There are times when things get so daunting that we don’t know where to turn or indeed, where to start. Here’s such a “story” with, thankfully a happy ending. Follow me please…..

It’s the start of a new day, a new week. You have decided that it’s about time for a fresh start. You are tired of the same old, same old. You are going to now make headway, get to where you want to be, time to be successful!

You have great intentions.

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You want to get places.

You can’t wait to get started.

That’s all fine. However…….

There’s so much to do, so much information to sift through, so many choices, so many decisions……so much pressure!…..

The Mist descends.

Yes, this can be the situation. Indeed I’m sure we have all been in this boat before at some point. So then what happens?

Often…..nothing. We default back into old thought patterns, we retreat to the safety of our zone where we are comfortable.

”At least it was a great idea”, I hear you say.

You see great ideas are just that. Without action, ideas do not flourish and the ‘greatness’ disappears.

I’ve been banging on about “Excuses” in recent weeks/months and this is what I am getting to here again. What really stops us from taking that action, that beginning step to exercising greatness?

Maybe I’m being a bit hard. “Excuse” is a fairly in your face type word. So perhaps it’s a lack of Belief, a fear of success that’s holding us back?

If it is then you can get it ‘fixed”. Seek some help because some fears can be crippling and lack of Belief will certainly anchor you down. If you want to move forward/be better, there’s no excuse not to (get this fixed).

However if you are just finding your own reasons (I’m being kind) to thwart your progress then some serious soul searching is required. Sabotaging your own Life is inexcusable. Some excuses are as I’ve mentioned before, very subtle. Thought manipulation via lifelong conditioning. This is where it can get tricky.

To cut through this you must be aware of your thoughts. Are they ‘real’?…meaning…are they getting you to take the type of action that will allow you to grow, to expand your ‘zone’?

Examine your thoughts. Take time out, you owe it to yourself to do this. Are your very thoughts becoming excuses?….wearing you down, gently, subtely whispering to you…..”you can’t do that?…..”you are not worthy”…..”that’s too hard”…..”take it easy, there will be another time”

Weed out the poor thoughts and nurture fresh,clear thoughts…they will be your saviour. Clear thoughts lead to clear vision which will be backed up by clear action and purpose.

No more mist, clear sailing ahead.

What do you do when “the mist” descends? Do you retreat or do you try to work out a better way? I’d love to hear.

Be good to yourselves

David

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Living Life Today – When you must draw a Line in the Sand

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I’ll come clean…this post is partly a “redo”. I originally posted “Drawing a Line in the Sand” early last year in my embryonic blogging days. I feel very strongly about this topic so I couldn’t resist re posting, this time under the Living Life Today series banner. I have made a few tweeks. Hope you enjoy.
“The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow”….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.
 
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  • How much do you put up with?
  • How many Excuses do you give yourself?
  • Why is “Procrastination” your middle name?

There comes a point in one’s Life when enough is enough. This can relate to what you do……. and what others do to you.

  • Do you want to keep playing ‘the victim’?
  • Are you happy to be mediocre rather than great?
  • Do you put up with unnecessary crap?… or any crap for that matter.
  • Do you lack the freedom to express yourself OR the will to do so?
  • Are you choice poor? Or choice avoidant?
  • Are you stuck in a rut?

Could it be time to draw a line in the sand?…… No more crap, no more mediocrity, no more lack of or avoidance of choice, no more excuses, no more playing the ‘victim’. 

Stand up, be counted, stretch yourself, shine & do your very best!

Now, is it time for you to draw a line in the sand?…..

Be good to yourselves

David

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One Simple Way…..to becoming unstuck

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I'm free no longer stuck

This one Simple way will help you to begin to free yourself from the ‘gluepot’ of Life.

You are Stuck, right. Not sure of your next move forward. A million thoughts running through your head, none of them making any sense.

I’m going to tell you something that you have probably heard before, many times.

Pause, take time out.

It’s not brain surgery however, have you done this?…..maybe it’s time that you did, because this will give you the leverage that you need,in your battle to get unstuck. Being “Stuck” can also bring on Busyness, because you are trying to do a lot of stuff, hoping that something good will come of it & you will find a way forward. You will probably not, that’s why you should…..

Pause, take time out….. now that I have your attention

*one simple way once you have paused, is to….embrace your “Gratitudes”

You like me, have so much to be grateful for. Simply spending the time, exploring what you are grateful for, starts to free your mind. Simply writing down your gratitudes, invigorates and tingles the senses. Simply reading them each day opens up the thought processes. Simply re living these wonders creates new pathways, re energises your soul and gets you moving.

This is just one of the simple ways to getting unstuck, there are others. That will be for another post…..

It doesn’t have to be any more complicated than this.

Why not give it a try and let me know.

Be good to yourselves

David

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Living Life Today – Have we lost “The Art of Happiness”?

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“The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow”….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.

My “happiness” is a resource that I can draw from when my stocks are low. It largely comes from Gratitude for being here and Belief in my own Personal power.

I get unhappy at times. You know…. ‘this gets to you’, ‘that irritates you ‘& so on.

Now I could wallow in self pity for a while, feel miserable, the world’s against me etc,…..but I don’t, I draw on my “Bank of Gratitude” & Belief that all will be well.

This is the Art to being Happy……in my opinion.  I’m not necessarily talking about delirious, foot stomping, back slapping, side splitting happy (though that’s good), no I am talking about an inner happy.

A sense inside that all is well or will be. A happy internal glow, a calm, a reassurance……that type of Happy.

We can always chase our “Happiness”, like….. We will be happy when…….We will be Happy if…….

However looking for an external source for your happiness, when it’s lurking inside all of the time, will only end in frustration.

Being aware that you can tap into your very own internal resource?…….well Life Lovers, that is true Art, use it to the Max!

Please share your thoughts in the comments below and/or share this post with your Universe.

You might also like to read this……”My Happy is my Friend”

Be good to yourselves

David

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Living Life Today – A Positive Mindset never hurt anyone, so let’s get charged!

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Now that's a charge!“The Living Life Today series provides a platform to think about your Life as it is Now, enjoy what you have, review and create an even better future for tomorrow”….. Short, sharp & easily digestible.

The type of mindset you adopt, determines the type of day, month, year, Life that you have. Today, we are talking Positive Mindsets…..How many people do you know who walk around cloaked in negativity? Plenty I bet. This blog is designed to deliver Positive outcomes, so here we go.

Although I’ve written about this before, I felt that another dose is in order.

I’ve snuck in a 1 minute Video on how I see a Positive Mindset can be beneficial for you. Please take a peek.

So what’s stopping you?! Negativity will get you nowhere fast, so charge yourself up!….. here’s three summary points to  get you buzzed.

A Positive mindset gives clarity. You can see through the maze, and step forward with authority. It clears the path of any obstacles.

A Positive mindset is magnetic. It attracts people and events to you…..people and events that you will enjoy, embrace and will move your Life forward.

A Positive Mindset simply makes sense…..and you know that it does.

Please add how your Positive Mindset benefits you, in the comments below, I’d love to hear.

Be good to yourselves

David

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How to get the best value out of your Mid Life & make it work for you

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To play Life at the elite level & enjoy your Life to the full, your ‘game’ needs to be at an elite level. This entails practise & planning regardless at what stage of Life you are in.

In the Mid Life Game, the type of practise will vary & your plans will alter as your game changes from that of earlier years. Nevertheless the “rules” stay the same…..practise & plan.

Sporting analogies aside, the Game of Life is as big as it gets. Having intermediate Goals or plans is wise. Having a longer term Vision for yourself is also wise…..and the time to get that Vision clear  is now drawing closer. This is where a Game Plan can be a valuable resource.

So let’s get cracking!

What one big thing do you want to have achieved by the end of this year? What do you want your Life to be like in say, 10 years?…….so, can you honestly answer these two questions?Life is beautiful

This is just a taster to get your thoughts percolating.

(The questions that you will ask will get more interesting, some examples here. Finding the answers, more intriguing & enjoyable, as you move through your Mid Life)

I have recently repainted my Big Picture and tweaked my Game Plan.

The greatest value that I have gained from this exercise, is the amount of feeling that I have included.

Feeling gets the juices flowing, the spine tingling, the blood flowing…….it adds starch to the mixture and makes your Game Plan come alive. I believe that to achieve any goal, it must include a healthy dose of feeling and meaning otherwise motivation to achieve will wane.

Your Goals when entering your forties may well be different to those in your fifties and sixties(more than likely they will be). This is where you have the opportunity to commence your Game Plan and have it working best for you. Getting in ahead before time catches up & passes you by is a big plus…..and we do want to play it Big this year & every year, don’t we?

Setting yourself down and going through a planning session, at least once per year, is a vital ingredient to having a successful Mid Life…..your Game Plan needs to be ready for action. Note: If you don’t know how or where to start, contact me here.

Ask yourself questions, map out your direction for the coming year. Tip… if you are doing this for the first time, I would suggest that you clarify (or create if you haven’t done so) your long term Vision, so that your plan is in sync with your longer term aims.

Your long term Vision/Big Picture may be your ‘pinnacle’. It’s your ideal picture of your Life in 10,20, 30 years from now. Often, this is where our intermediate goals will come from. It’s like working back from the bigger picture and breaking it down into manageable pieces.

As you get into the rhythm of doing your plan each year, also spend time on reviewing the previous year…..are you on track or does some adjustment need to be made? Are you still in alignment with your longer term Vision? Do you need assistance by the way of professional help, Life Coach, mentor for example?

The beauty of having a Game Plan is just that, you have a plan. It can be as broad or as defined as you want…..flexibility is a great thing. Importantly, it’s a blueprint  to allow you to chart your course through your Mid Life and enjoy your journey toward your Big Picture…..and it can be benchmarked to ensure that you are ‘oncourse’ OR a new course needs to be plotted.

Note: This is the way that I look at my Mid Life. It might not be for everyone. It has helped a number of people who I have worked with however you do need to make your own choices. Whatever you choose to do, enjoy your Mid Life and have a destination in mind while journeying.

I’d love you to share your comments below.

Be good to yourselves

David

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